Just trying to gauge if I’m in normal reference range or not. Before anyone gets worried, I’m just passively suicidal meaning I have never actively done or tried to kms, but the idea of just not waking up one day sounds nice sometimes.
Thanks <3
Does anyone else seem to take out their negative emotions on their partner even when it’s not their fault?
For example, I had a lot of shit with my job come up this week that was unfair and awful and my husband says I took it out him. He keeps using the word “animosity” like “it’s not acceptable for you to have so much animosity towards me when you’re upset about something else. I’m not your emotional punching bag.”
I think he’s right - I do this. I’ve been getting better with DBT and meds but I definitely still do it. But I think what triggers it is when he can’t adequately validate or empathize with my emotions. So I feel vulnerable and then hurt like it was unsafe for me to open up. So then I protect myself by getting hard and edgy towards him and push him away.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? And if so, do you have tips to help?
Thank you.