Can I have some advice please
For context, I had been dating with someone in a system for three years, I knew about his system even before we dated since we were bestfriends. So I like the main host if it's okay to use that word, as he is the only one I get to talk to (where I consciously know). We started to date after a falling out where his protector alter have came out. He is the one chatted me telling everything about how main felt. In a spur of fits I confessed and that lead to the next day where I talked with main. The second time I consciously met someone when someone scolded me after frustrating main too much over something 'playful'. For three years, I only met one person in person, it was a bit of a traumatic experience for me as main was replaced by protector all of a sudden when we were talking avout a heated topic, and I was left all of a sudden in the middle of the streets and I panicked then due to not understanding what happened and I only received a message it wasnt him. Their system works in a way they all pretend as the main host no matter what due to past experiences.
He says the others talk to me and I dont know or realize it. And I dont understand if its valid for me to feel hurt that they dont let me know who I am talking to, as it had been three years... I had communicated this for years now and I know main was also hurt about how his alters had tended to hurt me emotionally multiple times, but I still want to try talking with them consciously. Im sorry for the long paragraphs. Its just that, I dont know if its valid to feel this way as a girlfriend of someone with DID.