Do we help birthmom?
We have an open relationship with our adopted child’s birthmom. She and a daughter live in another state. Recently birthmom went to jail for I don’t know how long, and I don’t know for what. She just said “something in her past that caught up to her.”
Of course she lost her job while she was in jail. The friends who looked after her child while she was in jail, stole from her and damaged her car.
We sent her a couple hundred dollars when she first got out of jail to pay her child’s after-school care tuition cost and replenish some groceries.
Today she texted me. She said the car was going to cost more than it was worth to fix it, so she’s without a car. The new job she got didn’t work out, so she’s without income. And she says they are about to be homeless. (I haven’t asked what “about to be” means — if they are late on rent, or already months past due, or what).
She hasn’t asked me for anything yet. I’m sure she’s hoping I’ll offer to pay rent. And/or, if her kid can come stay with us awhile til she gets back on her feet.
I want to help and support her. But I don’t want to be taken advantage of. So I was hoping to get some outside opinions.
This is my first post here and I’ve tried to be plenty vague for anonymity, but yall please tell me if this isn’t vague enough.