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Hi everyone,

I’m having a really frustrating issue in SolidWorks drawings and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

When I try to create a dimension from one edge to another using Smart Dimension, I click the first edge and then try to select the second edge. Very often, SolidWorks just doesn’t seem to recognize or snap to the second edge. Instead, it immediately creates a dimension showing only the length of the first edge.

In general, I’ve noticed that dimensions in drawings often don’t want to properly select or snap to edges, even though the edges are clearly visible and selectable otherwise.

It happens often enough that dimensioning drawings has become really frustrating.

Has anyone dealt with this before? Is there some selection, snapping, filter, or drawing setting that could be causing it?

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

I'm 33M and I've been trying to understand a relationship pattern that has been affecting me for years.

The strange thing is that I can develop an extremely strong emotional attachment to a woman, even when, rationally, I know that the relationship probably wouldn't make me happy.

For example, there was a woman I cared about very deeply. I found her attractive and really wanted things to work, but when we actually spent time together, I often didn't feel comfortable. Sometimes she felt like "too much" for me, I felt overwhelmed by how much attention or closeness she wanted, and there were moments when I genuinely wanted to leave and be alone.

Yet when she later pulled away or decided she only wanted friendship, it hurt me enormously.

And this isn't the first time.

I've noticed something similar in other relationships/dating situations. When someone really wants me, part of me starts pulling away or questioning whether I actually want them. But when that person becomes unavailable, distant, rejects me, or I feel like I'm losing them, suddenly my emotional attachment becomes incredibly strong.

I start thinking about them constantly, analyzing messages, replaying the relationship in my head and feeling a huge sense of loss.

What confuses me the most is this:

I sometimes seem to miss someone much more after losing them than I actually enjoyed being with them.

It makes me wonder whether what I'm attached to is not entirely the person themselves, but something they represented — being wanted, validation, hope, connection, the idea of a relationship, fear of being alone, etc.

I've also noticed that my general mood and self-esteem often improve when I'm dating someone who is excited about me, and drop when that connection disappears. I've struggled with rumination and a generally lower mood on and off since a major breakup several years ago, although there have definitely been periods where I felt completely fine.

I'm not trying to diagnose myself from Reddit. I'm planning to explore this properly, but I would really like to understand the psychology behind it.

Has anyone here experienced something similar — being intensely attached to someone after losing them even though you weren't particularly happy or comfortable when you actually had them?

Was there a concept, therapy approach, book, podcast, etc. that helped you understand why you do this?

Especially interested in books about attachment, self-worth/validation, fear of abandonment, limerence, relationship anxiety, or anything else you think might be relevant.

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who recognized this pattern in themselves and eventually figured out where it came from.