u/_balsamicglazed

Hi! I’m looking for someone to apartment hunt with for a 2BR/1BA in Highland Park, Mt. Washington, El Sereno, Eagle Rock, Lincoln Heights, or Glassell Park. I’ve been having a surprisingly hard time finding someone! Also down to join a house with an open room.

Budget: ~$1500 each (so up to ~$3000 total)

Must-haves: at least 1 parking spot + laundry (on-site or in-unit)

Nice-to-have: dishwasher

Move-in: flexible, anytime between now and August

I’m looking for a female roommate in their mid 20s–30s who’s reliable, communicative, has a steady schedule, and helps keep shared spaces reasonably tidy. Would also love someone I genuinely get along with and can occasionally hang out with! Someone left-leaning is highly preferred as well.

About me: I’m 32 and work full-time (in office 4 days/week). Outside of work, I’m usually reading, working out, or going to movies and concerts with friends — just regular girl-in-her-30s things 😊

If this sounds like we might be a good fit, feel free to message me with a little about yourself!

I'm 34F, moved back in with parents 4 years ago to pay off my credit card debt and save for my future. Instead, I let my debt skyrocket to almost $30k. I've spent the last 8 months seriously committing to my mental health (shout out antidepressants and ADHD meds), working on my budget and committing to it, saying no to outings and trips with friends, putting about a 3rd of my paychecks towards debt payments, and made the difficult decision to use money from my HYSA and brokerage account to pay more off. These changes have had a positive outcome: I'm now at a balance of $13k.

I'm proud of myself for the changes I've made to address this, and to avoid this situation ever happening again but wow, debt is just so debilitating. I can't believe I did this. I can't believe I have so little in my savings account at this age. There's distance with my friends because I can never do anything anymore. I don't bother dating because who wants to be in a serious relationship with someone so financially irresponsible. I feel like I wasted my parent's goodwill and generosity. I'm moving in with recent college grads to save on rent while others my age are buying homes or renting their own places. I just feel like a failure who has resigned myself to a life of playing catch up. I can't help but wonder if these feelings are temporary or if I'll always feel like this, even after all the debt is gone.

I have three credit cards, two with high balances that I'm worried about. I've reached a point where I've just had it. I know becoming debt free will take a while but as things stand, I've drastically changed my spending habits (which is hard to see considering how expensive everything has gotten) and I make slightly more than the minimum payments but the debt is killing my ability to do other things like move into an apartment that meets my needs or putting more into my retirement and savings. I've also already asked the bank if they can lower my APR which they declined.

I have a HYSA and investment account (separate from my 401k through work). I'm seriously considering pulling funds from both just to be able to pay off the card with the highest APR and never touch it again. It would free up a good $300-500 a month to put into savings, rent or other expenses. Obviously my accounts would take a hit but I just don't know what to do anymore. Has anyone done this just to get a small break on this long journey?