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I’ve been bedsharing with my son since 5/6 months (with his first stretch at night in his crib). He’s 13 months now & I finally feel ok with transitioning him to sleep alone on a floor bed until I join him later in the night as needed.

We completely baby proofed his room, but I was unsure about the mattress positioning. We ideally/eventually want to rotate it so it’s kind of tucked in that nook, but that would mean one side would be against the wall. It doesn’t move super easily on the slats, but I’m still nervous about the possibility of it sliding away from the wall and creating a gap. With the current setup, is the gap between the wall and the left side of the bed ok? it’s about a foot or so wide. In the picture, I’ve placed two pillows there with a blanket wrapped around them to completely fill the gap, but would I be better off just leaving the space open?

Am I overthinking this too much for a baby this age? lol My little guy is pretty strong and although not walking on his own yet, is very close.

Thank you in advance to anyone who can provide advice!

My son had his first birthday this month& with it, I privately celebrated breastfeeding for one year. He’s my first child & even though I always planned to breastfeed, I was so worried that it wouldn’t work out. He was born early & had trouble latching and gaining weight due to a lip tie, so the beginning was rough and made me doubt myself so much. But now as I’m sitting here feeding him to sleep & watching him do the little pat pats on my chest, I’m so proud of myself for sticking with it & proud of him for learning. No one in my life understands what a big deal this milestone is for us, so I wanted to share it with you guys since I know you’ll get it. Our bodies are incredible.

I’m also looking for advice for those who breastfed past one year. My MIL and mom both never breastfed their kids past around 6 months, and my SIL chose to formula feed her baby who’s just a few months younger than mine. So now that my son is 1 and eating solids regularly all day, I’m getting questions about when I plan to wean him and start cow’s milk. But I just don’t even want to think about that right now. Breastfeeding such an integral part of our nap & bedtime routine, makes me feel so close to him, and is a magic cure for when he’s dysregulated or sick or teething.

Thankfully my MIL didn’t press further when she asked & I told her we were still breastfeeding, but my FIL made a “joking” side comment to my husband along the lines of “as long as he’s not one of those who’s a full kid walking and talking and still nursing.” My husband handled it (he’s very supportive), but it made me realize that I don’t know how to handle the judgment that is surely only going to increase as my baby grows older and we continue to breastfeed. I’m a super people-pleaser & love to keep the peace, especially as I do truly love my family and don’t want to just tell them to mind their own business (even if that’s what should be said lol)

Has anyone been through this & have any advice to share? My plan is to just never talk about it, obviously. But I know it will get brought up again. How do you respond to comments about extended breastfeeding in a way that is assertive and confident without being rude?

TLDR;
I feel like a badass for breastfeeding my baby for a year but somehow don’t have the guts to respond well to people who expect me to quit now that he’s “old enough”

Safe setup for 13-month-old?

Made it 1 year!! Advice needed for questions about not weaning yet