He needs help
My boyfriend is 32, he does meth, weed and lots of alcohol. Either he smokes weed and sleeps in all day or he gets high on meth and drinks for days, it’s an endless cycle. We have a 21 month old child together and the main person who takes care of the child is me, or on some weekends my mom. My boyfriend smokes next to the kitchen hood when the child is home, when I told him just yesterday to go smoke outside he told me to leave if I can’t stand him anymore. He doesn’t go to work, we rely on my maternity leave and mainly on his mom. I’ve tried talking to him multiple times to get him some help to quit all of these substances, he just agrees with me or changes the topic because he doesn’t want to talk about it. Recently I told his mom about his substance abuse, she didn’t even mention it to him. Every time he goes on a drinking spree (which almost always last at least 4-5 days) she gets disappointed with him and tells me that she will talk to him, but she just tells him that she doesn’t want this to happen again or that he has a family now and he needs to take care of us, something like that. Then she continues to give him money every time he asks her.
I don’t know what to do with him anymore, how can I help him get better? He doesn’t do anything with his life and I don’t want my child living like this anymore. When he drinks there are people in our house all the time, even though they are in a separate room I can hear them because they are next to our bedroom. They smoke inside even when the child is there with them. I’ve been thinking about leaving but I want to try getting him help first. I don’t think I can rely on his mom to help so what should I do? Have any of you been in a similar situation? What would you have done?