AITA: Unequal Sibling Treatment
My husband and I live 12 hours from my parents - we moved away a little over 8 years ago. We're expecting our first child in a few months, and are struggling to finish all of the home renovations we panic started when I got pregnant. I keep wishing they would offer to come out for a weekend, or a week (they're retired) to help us prepare our home for the arrival of their new grandchild and to help their only daughter in her first pregnancy.
In contrast, my brother and his wife live 15 minutes away from them - and last year, when they were renovating their house before the birth of their first child, my dad provided a ton of help and free labor on projects while they went to work. And now my mom is now watching their baby 5-days a week so they can save on day care costs. When we talk on the phone, my mom always says "I wish you lived closer so we could help you" as if they couldn't get on a 1.5hr flight or make the time to drive out to see us. I never know what to say, but I always feel so bad afterwards. Am I the asshole for feeling neglected here? I know we live far away and it's unfair to have expectations of my parents to help or try to be involved in my life after I moved away, but I can't help feeling shitty about it.