How to Respond & Shut Someone Down When They Ask My Age
I’m a non-traditional student going back to college for a second degree to pursue nursing, so I’m older than most of my classmates.
So far I’m having a blast being back in school, but a dilemma I’ve come across is there’s one pre-nursing student like myself who continues to ask how old I am and in front of the entire class, but she asks with such a distasteful tone like it’s something “bad” when I view my life experience as something positive. She also constantly states loudly (and draws attention when doing so) that she’s shocked I’m older because she assumed I was her age. Others in the class have actually found out my age and the fact that I’m married with a child because they’ve been friendly and personable, and they’ve all been very nonchalant about it.
Due to this girl’s continued judgmental tone, I don’t think she deserves to know and I don’t want to satisfy her curiosity either. I don’t want to engage with her at all, for other reasons on top of all of this (see below). What’s a good way to respond or shut her down, polite or not?
Another question: is it rude to flat out tell someone (the same girl as above ironically) that she’s not welcome to join my group for group activities in lecture class and also not welcome to be a part of my lab group for lab days? She’s benefitting off of my hard work while being unprepared herself, and at the end of the day it’s unfair and it’s breeding resentment. So she wants to be judgmental towards me and try to embarrass me in front of the entire class (on several occasions), but then in the next moment she intentionally sits next to me (because the professor creates groups based on who you’re sitting next to) to use me academically for group activities and lab reports since she knows I actually put in effort. The crazy part is that I’m not naturally smart in math and science, but I’m just trying really hard in this particular class and it’s paying off.
Here’s some context: She never reads the chapters before class like she’s supposed to, hasn’t even bought the book yet (but laughs about that fact like it’s something to brag about), and in our weekly group activities she never tries to solve any problems (because she’s unprepared), is constantly lost, and always intentionally sits next to me and copies the answers off of my papers. How do I know it’s intentional? Because on lecture days, she sits next to her friend who is also a pre-nursing student. Yet specifically on group activity days and lab days, she abandons her friend and always comes to find me and sit literally right next to me (making me move my bag off of the chair when there’s plenty of empty seats nearby). I’ve spoken to the professor, and she’s aware that unprepared students intentionally sit next to smarter students to automatically be grouped together into groups for activities. That’s another problem - do I tell her don’t sit next to me anymore or when the class starts just pick up my stuff and move to a different seat at the last minute? But that’s just screwing myself over because I already sit next to another smart classmate and luckily we’re always grouped together. I don’t want to end up punishing myself just because of one bad classmate, but I don’t want this academic leech to benefit from me anymore either. Any advice would be appreciated.