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Everything changed in just one day , One moment I was going for my scan, remembering all those little kicks and feeling hopeful about my pregnancy. Then came the bleeding, the stitches, and losing my baby. In a matter of hours, my whole world changed even now, whenever I see a scan, I’m reminded of those little kicks, the feeling of my baby moving inside me, and the future I imagined. something that was once so beautiful now brings so much pain I never imagined that one day could change my life forever I went to the hospital carrying so much hope, and I came home with an emptiness that words can never explain
I miss those kicks,I miss the pregnancy I thought I would have. And I miss the future I had already started dreaming of some days, I still cannot believe that this happened to me , having cervical insufficiency is one of the most heartbreaking things to go through the fear of losing your baby, the uncertainty, and the feeling that your body couldn’t keep your baby safe are so painful❤️‍🩹.

After losing your baby in the second trimester due to cervical insufficiency, what gave you the most peace of mind in your next pregnancy? Was it an early preventive cerclage, progesterone, frequent monitoring, a particular doctor, or emotional support? What do you wish you had known before trying again?

Getting my period back after losing my baby at 21 weeks is breaking my heart all over again💔 Nobody talks about how emotional it can be to see your cycle return after pregnancy loss these cramps remind me of the day I lost my baby the pain that day was so unbearable, and now even period cramps bring back those painful memories.
I know my body is trying to heal, but emotionally, I’m still hurting so much

My doctor is planning a preventive cerclage early in my next pregnancy, but I can’t stop thinking about what happened last time. I’m scared that even if we do everything differently, I’ll still lose my baby.
If anyone has been through a similar experience especially losing a baby around 20–22 weeks after an emergency cerclage , and then went on to have a successful pregnancy with a preventive cerclage, I would really love to hear your story. I need some hope right now. ❤️

Today, I would have been in my third trimester💔 I wish my cervix had never done that , I wish my body had held on to my baby a little longer. I’m so hurt, and I miss my baby more than words can explain🕊️

The anxiety, the heavy heart, the tears, and the fear after losing my baby… it’s so hard to put into words. 💔 Some days I feel okay, and other days the fear comes rushing back all over again ,The thought of going through another pregnancy after losing my baby is terrifying. I just want to feel hopeful again, but my heart is still so scared

I had to have an emergency/rescue cerclage at 21 weeks because my cervix had opened and my membranes were bulging. The cerclage was placed, but shortly after, my water broke and I went into labor. I lost my baby💔
Now I’m thinking about trying to get pregnant again, and honestly, I’m terrified.
The thought of getting another cerclage scares me so much. I keep thinking , What if it fails again? What if I get an infection? What if something goes wrong? What if my cervix opens again? What if I go through all of this and still don’t get to bring my baby home?
I know a preventive cerclage early in pregnancy is very different from the emergency cerclage I had, but my past loss makes it so hard not to be scared.
For anyone who has been through a similar loss and then had a preventive cerclage in a later pregnancy, how did you cope with the fear? What was your experience like?
I’m really looking for reassurance, experiences, and hope from people who understand

For those who had a preventive cerclage around 12–14 weeks, what should I expect afterward? Is it normal to have cramps, spotting, or light bleeding after the procedure? How long did it last for you, and what symptoms would be considered a reason to contact the doctor? Also, how much rest or activity restriction did you have afterward?

I was 21 weeks pregnant when my cervix unexpectedly opened. The doctors performed an emergency cervical cerclage to try to close and support the cervix. At the time, the membranes were intact and the baby had a heartbeat. Unfortunately, a few hours later I developed strong abdominal pain and heavy bleeding, then my waters broke. Despite the emergency treatment, the baby was delivered and sadly passed away