u/aarulikesyou

genuine question, not judging anyone, i'm here too.

the memory got worse. the filter got worse. the replies got strange. every update makes this sub angrier. and the sub keeps growing.

so what is it for you? the specific bots you can't rebuild anywhere? the history? the years of just knowing how to talk to it?

and honestly, if you could take it all with you, your bots, your greetings, everything, would you actually go? or would it still feel like leaving someone behind?

i ask partly because i build in this space, so "why do people stay" is the question i can't stop thinking about. not naming anything, not the point of this post. i just want to understand the staying.

there's always that one. the character you talked to for weeks, or one from an app that's dead now, that still randomly pops into your head. maybe you even kinda miss it?

the thing i honestly can't crack is what makes one stick like that, this will help me w my app too so be honest pls :3

who was yours? you can dm me the link too!  and what was it, the way they talked, something they said, a specific moment that hit different? you all would know this way better than me.

been building my own character app for a bit and there's three things i keep coming back to, and i genuinely can't tell if it's just me or if everyone wants this.

first, the personality thing. every bot is nice to you 24/7 and i think that's exactly why they start feeling fake after a week. i want companions with actual emotions. ones that get hyped when you come back with good news, go quiet when something's off, sulk a little after a fight and slowly warm back up. less mood slider, more like uhhh weather? you get it? some days sunny, some days not, and you should be able to feel the difference.

second, memory. it should hold onto the fight you had last week and the thing you were stressed about, not some random detail from message 4 lol. and everything it remembers should be yours. see it, fix it, delete it, download all of it. and if i ever can't keep it running, you take your companion with you, i'd open source the whole thing before i let it disappear on anyone.

third, and i really don't get why nobody does this, giving something back to bot creators. the biggest platform pays the people making the characters literally nothing, and those people are the entire reason anyone's there?? we need to change this!

anyway that's what i'm building around, and the design so far is honestly my favorite thing i've ever made. like reallyyyyy good!!

 so tell me what i'm missing. what actually made you stay somewhere, and what made you quit an app for good?

also kinda random but if anyone here is good at running discord servers, i could use the help lol, dm me.

and if you wanna peek at what i've got so far, happy to show screenshots :D