u/aguinner76

I’m a 26 yr old guy and my girlfriend is 25. We’ve been together for almost seven years, and I’m planning to propose to her very soon. Our relationship is honestly amazing. We rarely fight, we communicate well, and I genuinely feel like she’s the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

But there’s one thing I’ve been hiding from her for almost our entire relationship.

She has never seen my face.

When we first started dating, I developed a pretty big nose. At the time, I was convinced it would decrease within a few months, so when she asked why I never took my mask off around her, I lied and told her I had some acne that I felt insecure about. I thought I’d just wait until it decreased and then never have to bring it up again.

Except… it never decreased.

Almost seven years later, my nose is still big.

Over the years, this insecurity has completely taken over my life. During sex, I keep my mask on. At the beach or the pool, I’m constantly making sure she’s walking in front of me. If I have to turn around, I do it quickly or try to cover my face somehow. I’m always thinking about angles, towels, changing clothes quickly… basically doing everything I possibly can to make sure she never gets a clear look at my face.

I know how insane that sounds.

The crazy part is that she’s told me multiple times that whatever I’m hiding, she wouldn’t care. She’s the kindest person I know. Rationally, I believe she’d probably hug me and tell me it’s okay.

But after hiding it for so many years, it feels so much bigger than just my nose now. It’s become this huge secret that I’ve built my life around. I’m embarrassed that I’ve lied about it for so long, and I’m terrified she’ll wonder why I never trusted her enough to show her.

I feel ridiculous saying this out loud. I’m about to ask my dream girl to marry me, yet she’s never properly seen or even touched my face.

Has anyone else dealt with an insecurity that got completely out of control like this? How would you handle this if you were in my position? And if you were in hers, how would you react?

I could really use some honest advice.

TLDR I’ve been hiding my big nose from my girlfriend for almost 7 years, even wearing a mask during sex and making sure she never sees my face. I’m planning to propose soon, but after lying about it for so long, I’m terrified to finally tell her.

I’m getting married this upcoming September, and I am very VERY fearful of anyone wearing white. As such, my wedding website specifies that guests do not wear white and as a further precautionary measure, I am arming my bridesmaids with shotguns filled with tank piercing bullets. I’ve already purchased the guns, and have made it clear to my particularly feral bridesmaids that I am 100% serious, that it will not ruin my day if they do it, but someone wearing white without being shot will.

However, I was curious on other people’s thoughts on this. (My groom is 100% on board and has even given me full permission, as he agrees it’s super disrespectful, to gun down his side of the family as well.)

Edit to add: The invitations explicitly state not to wear white, it’s more about the disrespect to me rather than confusion over who the bride is. Also, ideally, they will first be asked to leave, rather than the guns, but if someone makes a scene, I’m prepared to make a scene back🤷‍♀️

Additional edit to add: the groomsmen were feeling emasculated, so they will receive a handgun each.

So, I (28M) joined a new gym last month. The gym has all the extra facilities- pool, steam room, abortion clinic, etc. The steam room only runs 3 days a week, and men and women have separate rooms. You also have to inform the manager beforehand if you want to use the facilities.

The other night around 10 PM, I finished my workout and asked the manager (56M) to let me access the steam area. He told me the steam room was already running and that one guy was inside.

I don’t really have an issue with nudity, and usually people in steam rooms just cover themselves with a towel. But when I went inside, I realized a woman (30F) was pegging the dude (32M) (and doing more than pegging, just use your imagination).

I felt uncomfortable and decided to leave. As I exited, the manager asked me why I came out so early. Jokingly, I said, “Let the straights have their moment, I’ll take steam some other day.”

The next day at the gym, the guy confronted me and said I had outed his sexuality and turned him into a laughing stock at the gym because the guy is heavily into queersphere/LGBT culture, and apparently his “woke squad” has been making fun of him since then. He told me he now has to leave the gym (even though he could just say he's bi??) because I blabbed it to the manager.

The woman, meanwhile, was pretty chill and even got happy about it, because being outed made the guy finally acept he is the father of her twins (she's 8 months pregnant).

So, Reddit am I the asshole for outing his sexuality at the gym?