u/ainotna30

This is probably an irrelevant question but I wanted to share that my bf revealed to me (after I asked him about it for the first time) that the main category of porn he consumed was all about ”nn". That,I learned, meant"no nude". He was actually searching for pics with women in lingerie or bathing suits or skirts kr idk what else. But somewhat clothed women. All in sexual pics and positions.

Idk how to feel about this? Has anyone else been told that? Like is that even better than fully naked?

Hey,so he has stopped watching. And that's for sure. It hasn't been a while though, not much time has passed since the last dday. I don't know if he will relapse or not in the future but he seemed very serious about it this time and understood how much this hurt me. We will see what happens I guess.

Any way, I'been sending him a few pics/vids of me..Some are nudes/sexual, some are just my face,nothing sexual. He uses these. But the thing is he finishes very quickly when I send him those. Is that supposed to make me feel good? Bc he seems to like me so much that he can't resist? Probably. But something's off. Because I know for a fact that when he used to watch porn of any kind (most often gifs and pics of other girls on the internet) ,he used to do it for a long time. Like he was sitting ther for at least an hour. And when I send him a pic of mine it's like 2 minutes.

I get really pissed off and I don't know if that's normal or not. I get that this was happening probably because of the variety he had access to and was actually gooning. It still hurts and makes me feel like the substitute.

Idk am I crazy?

Hello to everyone here:) It's my first post and first time seeing this subreddit.

I am in a relationship with my bf for 10 months now. Since the beginning of our relationship I have told him that I don't like porn and he agreed with this. Since then every 1-3 months I caught him lying to me and I have discovered countless of times he had been watching porn. We have lots of sex and by that I mean LOTS. Nearly everytime I am not at his house (may be 1 or 2 times a week) he does it and lied. And he has confessed to me that he would sit in front of his pc and do this like for HOURS.

Long story short this is the situation. At first we argued,then understood my point and started feeling guilty and tried to minimize it but never ,ever told me the truth. This is the 4th time of him lying and I told him I would break up with him. I am not talking to him. He asks for one last chance,he says he is trying and he will never lie to me again.

He also plays porn games,like this is his main addiction. I don't even know exactly what tf this is. He says he plays pov porn games and I don't know if that makes the situation better or worse? Like how tf are these games played?

The worst part of it I started fetishizing it at some point,I was in such distress because of this, and made feel so sad and betrayed I started imagining scenarios of him with other girls or him doing this to get off. I even watched lesbian porn and imagined these women with him or him watching them.This started to turn me on even if I never watched porn the first 5 months of us dating and didn't need it. I did it occasionally and only with lesbian stuff in this context of imagining him liking it. Like trauma response and I felt sick of myself. Nevertheless I never watched a man in porn because I couldn't even imagine a man that was not him.

Anyways,he says this is all about stress and him trying to cope with it.

He had also told his father about our issue and his father proceeded to tell him not to supress himself. Like wtf.

I don't really know what I am asking for here, I guess I am asking if I should break up or not, and someone to open my eyes about all this POV games stuff he doesn't talk to me about. And various opinions about all this f up situation I guess.