I’m Failing As a Husband
I’m an ENFP and I read on the 16 personalities page “For ENFPs, navigating practical matters such as chores, budgeting, and social or family obligations can sometimes feel painfully unromantic. But unless these types take on their share of the responsibilities and help keep things running smoothly, they may actually create or amplify any stress in their relationship.”
I never wanted to be a lazy partner. I always envisioned myself taking on household and parenting tasks, but even when I’m trying as hard as I can, I’m still falling short by the standards I put up for myself and the standards my wife puts up.
Yesterday during couples counseling my wife brought up the fact that she’ll sleep in and when she wakes up she’ll find the babies not changed, not fed, not medicated, and a huge mess in the living room and I felt like the biggest asshole and the biggest deadbeat loser. Can any other ENFP husbands or dads relate? Is there any advice on how to make permanent changes and fix my marriage?