Help a brother out
I matched with a girl on a dating app, and we clicked quickly. We both said we were looking for a long-term relationship and enjoyed talking. Then we found out we live about 1,200 km apart. I asked if she wanted to continue talking despite the distance, and she said she needed time to think.
After that, her replies became inconsistent. She said she was sick and busy, and we barely talked. I asked her to be honest if she wasn’t interested. She said she wasn’t very active on the dating app and gave me her Instagram instead.
We chatted on Instagram for a couple of days, but again she became slow to reply and often didn’t even see my messages. When I told her I would be visiting her city and asked if we could meet, she only asked where I was staying and didn’t commit to meeting.
Feeling confused, I asked her directly about her intentions. She apologized, said she’d been busy, and explained that because I live so far away, meeting wasn’t practical. I told her I was willing to make the effort, but she said she didn’t want me to put in that much effort.
Then, unexpectedly, she shared her phone number and suggested we could video call. She also said she didn’t mind if it took years to build a friendship. We moved to WhatsApp and texted that day. I didn’t message again until later that night because I was sick, but she still hasn’t replied.
Current situation: I’m unsure whether she’s genuinely interested but overwhelmed by the distance and her schedule, or if she’s slowly losing interest. I’m wondering whether I should keep waiting or move on.