u/aliltrenchant

Hey there 👋🏻
After a lot of contemplation, I thought I’d give this a shot. I promise I don't usually ramble this much in real life….probably.

About me:

I work as an Appsec Consultant. I'm an introvert with a bit of social anxiety, but once I'm comfortable with someone, I can yap for hours. I like to have deep discussions about anything and everything. I love to read (only fiction lol), watch sitcoms, true crime documentaries, and whodunit series.

I love making random plans when we’re already out but I need a week’s notice to get me out of the house. I’m also a house cat who can bed rot for hours or days. I've never been in a relationship, so dating is new territory for me. I might seem a little awkward at first, but I warm up once I get to know you. I’m super sarcastic and have a dry sense of humour so never take anything I say too seriously. I’m also fiercely loyal, I remember the little things and I’ll absolutely bombard you with reels.

Basics:
• I’m a flexitarian. I drink socially (very rarely) and don’t smoke.
• I’m agnostic (culturally Hindu)
• I’m a feminist, through and through.
• I'm 5'5" with an average build after losing a significant amount of weight.
• I have lipedema (partly the reason why I used to be overweight). It’s under control but I do get severe leg pain from time to time.

Why I’m childfree:
• Some of the health issues I could face before, during, and after pregnancy are honestly terrifying, but "The List" solidified my decision to never have kids. Anyone who is unaware of the list, here you go: https://yuniquethoughtslist.wixsite.com/yuni-s-pros-and-cons/the-list
• Also, kids? In this economy? Absolutely not.
• Climate change. I'm not even sure we'll have enough water in the coming years, so knowingly bringing a child into this world doesn't feel right to me.

I’m looking for someone who:
• Is in the age range of 27-34, height 5’7” and above, straight, monogamous and health-conscious.
• Is emotionally mature, financially independent, and has a fulfilling life outside of a relationship.
• Is Hindu (I couldn’t give two sh*ts about religion but I’d like my parents to accept our match)
• Would love to try new things with me. Whether it's trying new cuisines, new activities, or travelling to different countries.
• Is serious about building a future, not just casual dating.
• Lives in Hyderabad. I live in Hyderabad so it’d just be easier, but I’m not too strict about it.
• Is okay with not talking 24/7. I’m someone who doesn’t like to text constantly, but I’m working on it.

Please stay away if you:
• Are not 100% sure about your childfree stance.
• Want an open relationship.
• Smoke.
• Place a disproportionate emphasis on appearance. Physical attraction matters, so just as a heads-up: I've lost a significant amount of weight and have some loose skin.
• Cannot respect boundaries.
• Do not want to share the mental load.

Preferences, but not deal breakers:
• I'm a very light sleeper with insomnia, so sleeping separately is something I'd ideally like if it works for both of us.
• My parents are aware of my decision of being childfree and seem to be okay with it. Ideally, you've already had the childfree conversation with your parents and know where they stand.

Deal breakers:
• If you're not looking to settle down within the next couple of years.
• If you plan to live with your parents after marriage. I’m open to living close to both sets of parents.
• If you have pets (cats or dogs). I love them to bits but I use minoxidil so it’s not safe for them 😭
• If you’re classist, homophobic, misogynistic, or a bigot 🤺

I’ve built a life I’m really happy with. I’m financially independent, surrounded by amazing friends, and genuinely content. So I’m only looking for someone who’ll add to that, not someone to fill a gap.

If this resonates with you, my DMs are open.
If not, I genuinely hope you find your fellow childfree human and build the life you're looking for together.