u/allthingsonwheels

soooo. i need some big sibling-ing here - i started seeing someone recently, and coming from a history of not so great relationships i kind of want to make sure i do things in a normal way. namely introducing this person to derby.

so gimme all the deets please :) how soon into dating did you bring your person into the derby world? what kind of event was it? (just the game? just the after party? both? some secret fourth option?) my mom and a family friend come to all my games, and i wouldn’t want them to meet too soon - but i dont want to hold off on inviting this person until we’re ready to meet parents because that makes it seem like derby is the same level as meeting the ‘rents and feels odd.

i know i’m overthinking this btw. i guess more importantly i’m just trying to sus out what other people do :)

So that guy I went on ONE 1-hr date with last Monday? The one that said he was in love with me by Friday? I blocked him after telling him we clearly weren’t on the same page and needed to stop talking. Altogether, he “knew” me for 7 days.

Dude has fucking lost it. Nothing directed at me, but he WILL NOT STOP calling, literally every day, the other technicians at that company - so, my ex-coworkers - and saying I “broke up” with him and he’s heartbroken and he doesnt understand what he did and blah blah blah…

I keep playing it off as if it’s funny to me, but I’m starting to get kind of scared now. I mean who is this obsessive and upset over someone they went on one lunch date with??? He literally never asked me any questions about myself. He doesn’t even know I’m left-handed, or my middle name, or ANYTHING. He’s clearly not actually in love but this fixation on me is really concerning and I’m starting to feel unsafe the longer I find out more with regards to him calling people to talk about me/this situation.

I just wanted someone to commiserate with, maybe a little advice I guess? Idk.. it feels like no one else around me is acknowledging how dangerous this guy might be?

Hi friends! This is a secret account so no one I know sees it, but I’ve been here before.

So uh, I’ll get right to it. It’s been about 4 months and I went on a date for the first time, with a guy who works at a company that I worked at up until VERY recently.

And by date, I mean we got lunch at a diner for less than 1 hour the other day.

He just said he loves me.

I’ve been very clear about my boundaries around taking things slowly, and this feels like a push on said boundary. I told him it was too soon for that, and he said he was embarrassed and “going silent for the night.” So I replied that it wasn’t anything to be embarrassed about, and that I hoped he slept well - and he texted back “okay.”

Now he’s shared some cryptic facebook post about “anything you lose by speaking your truth blah blah blah…”

ANYWAYS can y’all please reaffirm my belief that this was a test from him and it didn’t work so he’s now subtly throwing a fit to try and get me to fawn over him? Am I right to cut things off tomorrow as I’m planning to do? This guy DOESNT FUCKING KNOW ME

I’d really prefer this only be answered by people who have the piercings in question! Yours are the only experiences that I want to know of!

Okay! So, I’m considering getting either a christina piercing or an HCH piercing soon, I haven’t decided, but I’d like to know from people who have them how it is playing derby with them.

Is the healing going to be rough? Should I get one of those cups they wear in women’s hockey? Is it not worth doing during the season? Anything you’re comfortable speaking to would be super helpful!! Thank you!