u/anaabanan4

Today around 1:00 PM near Lake Elizabeth (Stevenson & Gallaudet), my boyfriend was riding his scooter when a van exiting the parking lot struck him and fled toward Mission Blvd**.**

A bystander called Fremont PD but was told no officers were available and to file a report online. It’s now been about 5 hours since the report was filed with no follow-up.

I understand departments can be busy, but how does a driver hit someone and flee the scene without warranting an officer response or, at the very least, a timely follow up? Mind you, the Fremont Police Department is literally about a block away! Feeling incredibly frustrated with Fremont PD.

If you were in the area around 1:00 PM today and witnessed the incident or have any dashcam footage of the van, please reach out. Any information could help identify the driver.

I need advice.

I was assigned to a project with a program manager (PM) who has a reputation for being difficult to work with.

During a Teams call, I was sharing my screen and I may have been moving faster than he preferred. At one point, he said, “DON’T TOUCH ANYTHING UNLESS I TELL YOU TO. I’M DRIVING.” (To clarify, he meant he was directing the process and wanted me to stop clicking until he told me what to do. He wasn’t literally driving a vehicle).

The words alone may not sound that bad, but his tone was sharp, condescending, and demeaning. I was caught off guard and honestly froze because I’ve never been spoken to like that in a professional setting.

A few days later, I asked my manager for advice on how to handle a situation like that if it happened again. I wasn’t trying to file a complaint or start a formal process—I was genuinely looking for guidance.

Now my manager wants to involve the PM’s manager and/or HR. She asked me to send an email documenting exactly what happened. I told her I would rather not because I don’t want to escalate the situation and would prefer to remain neutral.

Her response was that, as a manager, she feels obligated to address it to ensure it doesn’t happen to someone else.

At this point, I’m frustrated and honestly wish I had never brought it up. There has been no written complaint, no email documenting the incident, and no formal report from me.

My question is: can I realistically stop this from escalating any further, or is it out of my hands once I’ve told my manager?