u/analfissuretypeshit

I had an argument where I was told being denied access to your kid through divorce isn't a big deal. Real mens issues are things like sexual assault not being taken seriously.

I said I would rather be sexually assaulted than lose my kid. I believe that genuinely. But apparently that is ridiculous/hateful to everyone else.

What do you think?

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You can’t talk about male pain in public without it instantly being put on trial.

Not listened to. Not empathized with. Put on trial.

A man opens up about depression, severe pain from losing meaningful access to his children after separation, the most important relationship in his life reduced to alternate weekends and video calls. The response isn’t compassion. It’s:

“Divorced dad energy.”

Then come the statistics. The lectures. “Well fathers don’t fight for custody anyway.” “Women have it worse.” “Maybe you were a bad husband.”

No evidence but constructing a villain arc out of thin air because a man admitted he’s hurting.

A man says he’s severely depressed about dating while being extremely short, genuinely 5’3 or under, and people immediately jump to:

“Short man energy.” “Angry bitter manlet.” “Napoleon complex.”

Apparently there is no possible reality where constant rejection, ridicule, and invisibility based on physical traits could affect someone psychologically.

No, the approved narrative is that he must secretly hate women. His personality must be defective. His suffering is treated as evidence against him. Altenative cases proposed about bigger women being the ones truely suffering in society.

No empathy. Just moral condemnation.

A man talks about crushing loneliness, isolation, lack of intimacy, lack of purpose, and feeling emotionally disposable in society and he gets branded an “incel”.

The word itself has basically become: “male suffering we don’t feel like humanizing.”

And the second men try discussing any of this, the conversation gets immediately rerouted into:

why women have it worse

why men caused their own problems

why male vulnerability is secretly manipulation

why discussing men at all is somehow anti-woman

Everything becomes a gender war except the actual issues being raised.

People constantly say: “Men should open up more.” But what they really mean is: “Men should open up in ways that feel comfy to my anti-men narrative.”

Not every discussion about mens suffering has to become a courtroom defense against accusations of misogyny.

Sometimes a human being is just suffering.

Joking about "divorced dad energy" is psychopathic shit.

It's belitteling vounrable men whose children have been ripped from their daily lives, often through biased family courts and no-fault divorce that favor mothers even when fathers are loving and fit.

There is unimaginable pain in being suddenly separated from your children and life. It is a grief without a funeral or closure. You are expected to continue functioning while carrying the knowledge that the people you love most, and have framed your existence around, are growing up somewhere with your exclusion. Every day is an excruciating reminder of what they are missing, bedtime stories, school pickups, spontaneous hugs, movie nights, Christmas morning, every ordinary moment.

They face extreme financial strain from high support payments and legal fees, emotional isolation, and little societal support.

They battle severe depression, guilt, and powerlessness. It's no wonder so many take their own lives.

Instead of empathy, they receive cultural ridicule. Memes portraying them as pathetic, lame, or irrelevant.

This isn’t harmless humor, it is mocking the crushing isolation men experience after divorce.

Emotional support evaporates. Society teaches men to endure pain quietly, and when they finally show sadness or desperation, they are mocked for it. There are no spaces where fathers can openly speak about losing daily contact with their children without being viewed as weak, bitter, or suspect.

No one jokes about a mother grieving separation from her children. People instinctively recognize that pain as sacred. Fathers deserve that same humanity.

We’ve started to see street movements/protests in Ireland that resemble the Tommy Robinson style crowds in the UK gaining momentum.

So far, that energy hasn’t translated into representation in the Dáil.

For the past decade, there’s been an assumption that the FF/FG establishment is gradually losing support and that, eventually, a leftwing coalition would replace it.

Do you think an Irish equivalent of Reform UK could begin winning seats before that happens?

I'm not so positve we have a better future ahead.

We’ve started to see street movements/protests in Ireland that resemble the Tommy Robinson style crowds in the UK gaining momentum.

So far, that energy hasn’t translated into representation in the Dáil.

For the past decade, there’s been an assumption that the FF/FG establishment is gradually losing support and that, eventually, a leftwing coalition would replace it.

Do you think an Irish equivalent of Reform UK could begin winning seats before that happens?

I'm not so positve we have a better future ahead.

The scrunch gym leggings that reveal your entire ass crack are designed to highlight and split your ass cheeks.

It is intentionally provocative.

You may be technically covered but the thin layer is more akin to body paint.

Wmba, proffessional soccer all wear shorts. There's no way it is necessary for athletic performance or is the most comfartable option.