Hot mess wedding
So I got married recently, The thing is everything around my wedding was disappointing to say the least.
Backstory, my husband had been married before (they have a child-who is in their early teens) This is my first marriage and I have no kids, we do have a 8 year age gap. I’m in my mid 20’s.
On the wedding day, We arrive at the ceremony location. He was supposed to coordinate setup with some of my family-which turned out to be half assed setup. People had places to sit but it felt kinda off.
The ceremony was short and sweet as we both hate long drawn out ceremonies. We took family photos for around 20 minutes and spend another 20 minutes taking photos with the two of us.
These photos turned out terrible, AI editing, random people in the background, just all around bad photos. We had taken engagement photos with her, which turned out good. So this was a shock and a bit of a gut punch that my photos looked like they were edited in MS paint.
At some point, he was hot and wanted to take a break. We split up to get some AC and chat with some family, he then decided it was time to go. Didn’t ask, just said it was time to go because his son was ready to leave.
We were at our ceremony location for all of an hour, at the most. He didn’t think it was a big deal but has since realized since that it was a big deal to just leave.
He wants to make it up to me but I feel that it’s moot since we cannot relive that day, we can’t bring our families back around for a re-do, we can’t undo any of it. Plus, nothing is really going to “make it up” since that was a one time thing.
I can’t even offer suggestions as to what would be a way to make it up, I feel like nothing will make it up.
I know one day out of my life isn’t the most important thing, that the world doesn’t revolve around whether or not my wedding was something I enjoyed or went the way I would’ve liked. I don’t see how we can build a life if he can’t even spend a day without bailing.
I find that I remove myself from bridal conversations with my peers, I hate seeing bridal anything online and I also kind of wish that my anniversary will go by unnoticed because that day seemed to be so unimportant to everyone in my life anyways. Am I overthinking this? What do I even do in this situation? He’s a good person, a good partner but when I needed him to be present most, he wasn’t there. What should I do?