u/anenzephalia

What do I look like?

I’m 29, white, from Poland, 162 cm (5’3”), with long dark hair, dark brown eyes, and a round face, a bit curvy. I can exchange pictures once we start chatting. I have a pretty serious resting face, which is probably a mix of Slavic genes and being neurodivergent.

About me:

•English isn’t my first language, but I’m fluent (Polish is my native language). I have a bachelor’s degree, and currently I work as a caretaker for a disabled person. I’m an atheist.

•I’ve never had a boyfriend before, so online dating is completely new territory for me. I’m pretty introverted and have always been comfortable spending time on my own, but I’d like to open up to someone who feels safe and steady and stop being a loner!!!

•I spend most of my free time drawing or gaming. Some of my favorites are Diablo II, Dishonored, Disco Elysium, Marvel Rivals, and Skyrim. I love sending random memes and reels in the middle of the night. But I also love sleeping. I’m very cozy I sleep with my teddy bear <3

•I listen to alternative, electronic, IDM, noise, and death industrial. Björk and Massive Attack are probably my favorite artists.

•🎀I absolutely love cute things. Plushies, Sanrio, pink everything, cozy aesthetics… pink trinkets they genuinely make me happy. My favorite animals are snow leopards and seals. I collect hairties, ribbons and such. My flaw is that I may appear too childish.

•I’m currently losing weight and I’m proud of how far I’ve come. I also have massive anxiety around traveling and stepping outside my comfort zone, so I’m much happier taking things slowly. Long-distance doesn’t bother me at all.

•I’m left-leaning, feminist, and pro-choice. I don’t want children. Don’t smoke, alcohol sometimes (I’m Slavic duh)

Who am I looking for?

• Someone between 27 and 40 who’s looking for a real relationship. Atheist.

• Kindness and loyalty matters a lot to me, but I’m especially drawn to a man who feels solid and dependable. i’m looking for a man who emotionally mature, and brings a sense of structure while still being gentle and respectful :) and FUNNY! we gotta have the same sense of humor

•I have to confess something a little unusual… I genuinely find bald men incredibly attractive. Yes, I’m serious. that’s my main type. If you like what you read, bald men dm me immediately lol

•I’d love someone who has hobbies and passions of his own. Gaming, movies, sci-fi, art, or anything you’re genuinely excited about is attractive. bonus points for arts and mutual music taste

•I’m not interested in misogynistic attitudes, incel culture, pornography addiction, or lustful males who are only looking to bring up sex in every message. I have zero experience in such things and will not entertain such behavior.

•If you message me, tell me a little about yourself. maybe we click. exchange pics and we’ll see if the physical attraction is there or not.

thanks!

Edit: I did not know this community is so active wow, thank you for all the DMs. I will try to answer them asap 🧸

TW: childhood peer-on-peer boundary violation / possible COCSA

I’m trying to understand something that happened to me when I was in kindergarten.

Some boys would chase me around the playground and force unwanted “romantic” contact on me, like kissing and touching, even though I was scared and didn’t want it. I remember telling the teachers and saying I was afraid to go outside and play with the other kids. I also remember sitting in their little staff room after telling them. From what I remember, they didn’t really take it seriously. I was about 6 years old.

After that, I stopped being physically affectionate. I didn’t hug people, I was scared of being touched, and I only realized in my mid/late 20s that this memory might have affected me much more than I understood at the time. I'm still a virgin because I was horribly scared and still am of intimacy.

Would this count as COCSA, or is there another term for it? I’m mostly trying to understand what happened to me and why it stayed with me.