u/anishparadox

I’m 19M and looking for a therapist in Mumbai. I’m on a budget, and I’d prefer a therapist under 35.

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My girlfriend was 16 when she had a 1.5-week online relationship with a 19-year-old guy. She didn't even like him much and mostly got into it because of FOMO.

He repeatedly pressured her to send intimate pictures, using things like "I'm your boyfriend" to make her feel obligated. She didn't really want to, but eventually gave in because of the pressure. She blocked him when it got too much, but he promised he'd stop, convinced her to unblock him, and then did it again. She eventually blocked him for good. I've also seen their chats, so I know she was being pressured.

I understand that she was young and was being manipulated, and I don't blame her for what happened. But I still struggle with it.

I can't stop thinking about the fact that someone else has seen those pictures. Sometimes it even affects how I see her physically, and I hate that because I know she was the victim. I also worry that he might still have them somewhere.

Then I feel guilty because part of me thinks, "Why did she let it happen?" even though I know she was 16 and under pressure.

How do I get past this? Am I being unreasonable, and how do I stop letting something that happened before our relationship affect how I see her now? Or is it considered as a sexual past