Thoughts after 6 cycles of ttc
This isn’t fun.
When I learned that it’s normal to take up to a year to conceive, but “most couples conceive within 2-3 months” according to multiple sources I used, it gets discouraging really fast. I had a feeling this was going to be rough from the start solely because I feel like I’ve never had anything go how I wanted in life.
I’m in my late 20s and my husband is in his early 30s. We’re both healthy with no underlying issues known. My husband was honestly pretty ignorant of how this process works after I told him what I researched before we started this journey. I don’t think he believed the possibility of it being difficult until he actually went through with it.
I feel resentful as well because I always wanted a big family and he knew this. He was constantly pushing off when to start trying, and I really don’t know why. It was just like random excuses for why we couldn’t have a child even after we were married “we just got married,” “we don’t live in a good area,” “we just need to wait.” It caused so much stress knowing time was slipping by. He kept changing when he was okay saying “it’s up to you,” “after the honeymoon,” “after we move” “by the end of the year,” “by your birthday.” Then one day he just randomly decided he was ready.
I wasn’t trying to be pushy but when you tell me you want kids and how you value family, it feels weird not to be in the same excitement I had to start a family. I don’t understand why he did this. He’s a good man and I have no problems with him, but I always thought this behavior was odd. I can only think maybe he was nervous, but that’s still strange to me.
He’s done an at-home sperm analysis and that was good. I got bloodwork done which came back normal. I’m thinking of getting my hormones checked despite not having any physical symptoms of an imbalance. It’s very confusing when things I read are telling me it shouldn’t be an issue to conceive when my periods are regular and not painful. I don’t want to wait a year to get checked out. I don’t know where to start though.