r/tryingtoconceive

I just need a place to vent. Today was a rough one. My husband and I have been TTC for 4 years with unexplained infertility. Every test you can think of, we’ve done it. No answers as to why. I’ve only seen a positive once and I had a miscarriage less than 36 hours after finding out.

Today I woke up to a text from my best friend from college telling me she had her baby. Her second child (both conceived during the time I’ve been TTC). Then around 1:30 this afternoon my childhood best friend came to visit to tell me that she is pregnant. They had just started trying. It’s now about 6pm and my cousin just texted me to tell me that she is pregnant. This will be her second. I remember having a long talk with her about my struggles with infertility before she was pregnant with her first child, and now she’s going to have a second.

All of that happened in 1 single day. 3 birth/pregnancy announcements by some of the closest people in my life. I’m exhausted and I’m emotionally wrecked. I just needed somewhere to get it out because no one in my personal life understands what this feels like

Purchased letrezole in Turkey after struggling ttc, they literally gave me it with no questions asked. Has anyone took this without doctors involved and can give me any advice please

Been casually, trying for two years, testing ovulation for five months.
In those five months, I’ve only ovulated once.

I have PCOS

I’ve been doing everything right, my diet and exercise and just everything. I wish I had the same chances as everyone else.

I just wanted to share my experience over the past few months and, honestly, get this off my chest. Whenever I’ve tried talking about it with the people closest to me, I always get the same comments: “Stop obsessing over it and it’ll happen,” or “You’re overthinking it.” So I’ve reached a point where I don’t really feel like I can talk about it anymore.
I’d really appreciate it if nobody judged my situation harshly. I’m feeling quite vulnerable at the moment, and I’m mostly posting this because I need somewhere to vent.
My partner and I decided we wanted to become parents in September last year. I should probably mention that, until a few years ago, I never actually thought I wanted to be a mother.
Our situation is a little unusual because of our age difference: I’m 32 and my partner is 47.
Although we made the decision in September, we couldn’t actually start trying until April this year. I was starting a new job and, honestly, I didn’t want to deal with the possibility of getting pregnant right away and having problems at work 🤡.
We’ve now been trying for six months. And yes, I know that objectively speaking, six months is not a long time. But it feels incredibly heavy to me. I can’t stop thinking about the fact that I might have waited too long and that we could have started years ago.
I feel guilty because I was the reason we didn’t start trying earlier. I didn’t want to be a mother before, and now I keep thinking that maybe I’ve wasted time that I can’t get back.
I’m also someone who naturally tends to think negatively, so what started as a pretty normal process quickly turned into me researching everything. I started using ovulation tests to better understand my fertile window and, because apparently my brain needed something else to worry about, I also started tracking my basal body temperature to make sure I was actually ovulating.
Even though I’ve always had regular cycles and have never had any reason to think I wasn’t ovulating, my brain went straight to “But what if I don’t?” 🙃
So here we are. Six months of trying, timing sex around the fertile window, tracking ovulation… and still no pregnancy.
And lately I’ve started feeling like it’s never going to happen.
I have an appointment with my gynecologist this Thursday, so I’m planning to talk to her about everything and hopefully get some perspective.
I know six months isn’t necessarily a long time. I knew that before we started trying. I knew pregnancies don’t happen immediately for everyone, and I knew that even healthy couples can take time to conceive.
But knowing that intellectually and actually living through it are two completely different things.
Before I wanted to become a mother, I understood that TTC could take months. Now that I’m actually in the middle of it, every month feels heavier, and I keep asking myself why it hasn’t happened yet. I know that’s not necessarily rational, but that’s where my head is right now.
Anyway, I mainly wanted to vent. I don’t really have a question or a solution I’m looking for. I just needed to say it somewhere where people might understand.
I genuinely wish everyone here the best of luck on their journeys. From the bottom of my heart, I hope every one of you gets the happy, healthy pregnancy you’re hoping for. 🫶🏻❤️

For context, we’ve only been trying for two cycles so a big part of me feels like I don’t even have the right to feel this way but this month has been so incredibly taxing on my mental health. We went on our honeymoon which was amazing. We had sex every day starting 8 days before my app said I would ovulate and two days after. We got home 9dpo so normally I would start testing but we came home to an absolute nightmare.

My sister was watching our cats and by no fault of her own, one of them had ingested sewing thread and had to have emergency surgery. During the surgery we were told he only had 30% of his intestines intact and salvageable leaving him a 10% chance of recovery. I won’t get into the details but in the span of three days we went from fully accepting we were losing him, then saw a huge improvement after surgery, then he went septic and we thought we were losing him again. After a second surgery, he’s now home and recovering. It’s a long road ahead and caring for him 24/7 has been exhausting but I’ll do anything and everything to help him heal. Maybe it’s dumb but it has also made me think about how many parallels there are to caring for a newborn and the level of care my cat needs right now. 2 hours of sleep max and constant diaper changes.

All of this to say, this ordeal kept me from obsessing about testing. I didn’t want the joy of a positive test to be lost among the stress and sadness we were feeling. I was able to just keep it in the back of my mind and just planned to test if I missed my period.

Our kitty is doing really well at home and I feel like I can finally breathe without the fear of losing him. This made me consider testing. Long story long, I woke up this morning to spotting which happens every cycle before my period. I’m feeling really disappointed because we tried so many days in a row, although I know that’s just one piece of the puzzle. I thought that maybe this would be the light shining on the other side of everything for us. I’m also feeling like maybe it makes sense so that we have more time to regain our footing, emotionally and financially after the kitty ordeal. Even with pet insurance, our savings were significantly drained and that’s also been a blow to my sanity. Sorry for the rambling post and if it was too off topic. I’m just trying to sort myself out after the emotional whiplash of everything.

I don't want to sound annoying at all as I know some people may not have children at all, or have been trying for their second child for a long time.

However my husband and I have been trying for about 4 months (I know that's nothing in the timescale for TTC)

With my firstborn we conceived very quickly within our second try, she was a c section baby too.

I feel like I've become consumed with trying this time especially after each negative.

I know I shouldn't but I keep using those early detection tests to catch the second line that hasn't come yet and I just feel exhausted already and it's only been four cycles.

Again, I don't want to be annoying. I know many people have been trying for much longer, but I was wondering, does trying for your second take a long time?

I'm just getting a little scared as months tick by.

Hi everyone,

I'm feeling a little worried and confused tonight.

I'm cycle day 30, 11 DPO.

On day 26, there was some pale pink blood when I wiped in the morning. The next day it was brown, and a little heavier, and was there first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Yesterday I had a tiny amount that wasn't very noticeable but I had quite prominent cramping on my left ovary for a couple of hours last night. No blood this morning, but I went to the toilet about an hour ago and there was more brown/red blood, this time with a couple of very small string-like clots. Since then both of my ovaries have been aching though the bleeding has again stopped.

My lower back has been burning today and I've been tired.

We had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy in November 2025 and all of these symptoms (minus the cramps and possible clots) reflect what I experienced then before we knew anything was wrong, so i'm obviously now hyper sensitive to any signs.

I'm also very aware that this is the time when my period is due, and it could simply be presenting itself differently this month.

I don't really know what to do. Should I take a test tomorrow? Should I call the GP? Or should I wait a few more days to see if this is actually just my period?

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Hi community -

I’m curious, did your period come on time while using vaginal progesterone after ovulation? Or was it delayed?

Thank you!

Any other lesbians ttc here? I’d love to chat with others specifically doing at home insemination!