u/anonthrowawaynanny

Dearest fellow nannies and former nannies like me now I guess.

Last week I relocated with my nanny family(was staying in an Airbnb until I found housing). It was a 10 hour move from my hometown. I stopped overnight at the halfway point and stayed with my aunt and also my Mom who is visiting as they are relocating to the area of my aunt. I worked in the new city in the new state for two days when my aunt unexpectedly had a medical emergency and passed out outside on the pavement. in an attempt to revive my aunt and help her back up, my Mom, who has chronic medical issues and has had multiple orthopedic surgeries was injured while helping my aunt. I let the family know immediately that I would not be at work the next day as I had to help out my family.
Two days later (today) I let them know that I had to make a hard decision to stay with my parents as they seem to require more care than I had previously thought. It breaks my heart but if after a few days without help (me) they end up in the ER, to me, that means they’re at the point where they need someone local who can check in on them.
Even if I thought this was a one off situation with my parents(it’s not), the fact I had to lose a few days pay as I don’t get PTO or GH, has taken a massive hit to my wallet, in addition to having to drive over five hours to get to them+moving expenses. I feel like this was a major wake up call for me. While I understand it’s a big inconvenience for my NF, they do have grandparents with them until the end of the year. On one hand I feel awful for “abandoning” my NF but I feel like it was a necessity given my family situation. Thoughts?

Edit: thanks to all who commented. Idk why this is being downvoted as well as my reply. Way to kick a guy when he’s down already. Go take that negativity to the employer sub.

I’ve been working 55hr weeks and db comes back from his guys trip sick as a dog and proceeds to cough and sneeze all around the house without covering his mouth.

Nk’s have it. I have it. And mb is out of town now. The kids are coughing but basically back to their normal selves full of energy. Me not so much - as in I’m feeling a step up from comatose.

Right now my focus is on keeping kiddos alive, out of harms way and relatively happy. Nk4 wants me to constantly talk - but it hurts so bad. I’ve told him but he’s pretty used to getting everything he wants at the drop of a hat.

Also… older nk likes to attack sibling and not let him play.

Nk are 4 and 18mo. Nk4 doesn’t nap. Nk18mo sleeps for just an hour. No screens allowed. Any advice for making this day go by with as little effort as possible?