u/anonymongussss

we’ve been ECing since my baby was 6 weeks but only for poops. he is currently 4 months and I think we’ve finally gotten to a good point. he only poops once every 1-2 days in the potty and doesn’t seem constipated otherwise. We’ve noticed that he also started to hold in his poops until we take him. But now he has also gotten increasingly more gassy and we do all the things (burping, bicycle legs, windi, tummy time, gripe water and laying him on his left side) to help with passing the gas throughout the day and night but i feel like he’s holding in his farts as well as his poops. There have been some times where i use many of those strategies and no gas comes out so i think he’s fine but he’ll cry a lot in pain and when i take him to the potty he’ll release a lot of gas.

has anyone else doing EC experienced their baby holding in gas as well as poops? How did you teach them to not do that? I’m assuming the gas and poop probably feel similar so he just holds back and the gas accumulates a lot.

the nights are hard and it’s even harder to keep my faith intact during the tough nights. especially when I’ve tried everything to help a screaming innocent little baby at 2:30am. my baby wakes up from excessive gas. We’ve spent the past week developing different strategies to help and it was working finally. weeks before these issues I was going through some sort of Postpartum saddness and rage and anxiety and it took some time and help to come out of that. i havent even come to a point of enjoying motherhood all that much until last week. we were having a good streak of good nights until last night. we tried everything to try to help him but nothing was working for almost an hour. all i could think about was that I hated Allah for doing this to a small baby, I hated him for putting us through this. its already hard enough to have a baby, but to torture them with so much pain in the middle of the night and not help for almost an hour was painful to watch. i hated Him for letting this happen as soon as I was starting to feel better about motherhood , as soon as i thought we had it down and everything would be fine. i know these are deep dark late night thoughts but I have them often whenever my baby has a middle of the night episode. im not proud of it but I dont know what to do about it. i simply cannot help but feel so much anger towards Allah. and then on top of all the baby care to have to pray and be mindful about where his spit up goes bc when he starts solids it’ll most likely be najis and I’d have to change my clothes a billion times a day. why is Islam so hard… I find it so so hard in motherhood to keep my faith and feel positively about it on the inside. i want to feel it but the difficulty of waking up for fajr on top of all the baby wakings and having to pray every prayer on time even when your baby hates being put down makes it so hard to feel connected to Islam and to Allah. i try to make dua but I dont feel sincerity bc all I expect is that it wont get accepted bc Allah hates me. how did you stay connected to Allah truly and avoid these horrible thoughts? I know rationally they are wrong but in the moment I cant help but have them. please help.