u/anonymous_angel_777

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Hey ya'll I have an update, so let's just cut the crap and get into it!

Everything has been all good and sprout left after two nights!

I contacted my property manager and she responded immediately and basically stated all of the rules in a our contract that state that a 'guest' staying over night is not considered a 'guest' anymore and is considered a resident, so my property manager told me that she would be contacting bean and giving her a warning. She told me that if sprout wasn't gone after two nights, then I would need to tell her immediately.

So I messaged both of my flatmates, and I told them I snitched on bean to our property manager, and I told them if you noticed that he's lingering more than two nights, then to tell me.

One of them responded and said that Bean told her in person that he would be gone after two nights, and she said that from the sounds of it, there won't be any more issues coming from her! I haven't heard any gossip from her since then, so that's a good thing.

The real FUNNY thing about this is, is that I have a feeling that Bean is trying to get on my good side again.

When I moved in, I installed an internet modem since everyone else had their own personal mobile plan, and when Bean moved in, she wanted to use my internet, so every month, we just split the bill.

She would constantly complain about how slow our internet was on her phone, and I don't disagree with her it's pretty shit 😭 but it's just cheap student wifi, so what do you expect?

A couple of days after I had a go at her through text she randomly told me that she had switched to a mobile plan that was connected to our power company a while ago and forgot to tell me. She told me that she would pay me what she would owe me for this month's internet bill.

I was completely chill with that, and I assumed that she would only pay a quarter of what she would normally pay me for her half of the bill since she had switched providers a couple of weeks ago.

But then the next day she told me that she paid for my ENTIRE internet bill and low and be hold she sent the money to me in total.

I was so weirded out as to why she would do that since if apparently she switched providers I'm guessing a couple of weeks ago, she hasn't been using my internet at all throughout the month, so paying for internet that your not even using is just putting yourself into financial dept for no reason 😭.

I ended up sending her half of the money back, and I texted her back, saying that you didn't need to do that cause that's not fair on you. She hasn't responded jdjdjskdj.

Idk it feels like she's trying to get on my good side again cause I've made it VERY clear to her that I'm pissed at her. But girl idc about your money, give me a thoughtful apology and a change in behaviour, and I'm all set.

I'm still in my hometown, but I'm going back to the flat in a couple of days before my semster starts. I have a feeling that there aren't gonna be any crazy housewives level arguments between me and bean because respectfully, she is not a confrontational person in real life. This girl is all bark, no bite. She's told me before that she's the type of person who is very avoident when it comes to approaching confrontation.

When the time calls for it, she will be getting no mercy from me 😭 cause I am the complete opposite of non confrontational. I will double down on my points and grill her for disregarding the boundaries of the flat mates and TRYING to gaslight me into thinking that 'I should have told her sooner.' typa bull shit.

But now that I'm here, let me give ya'll some lore about bean.

Her taste in men is absolutely horrid, and that was one of the main reasons as to why I didn't trust the man (sprout) that she was bringing into the house.

Bean grew up in a Romanian orthodox Christian house hold, her Dad is a literal priest (he blessed our flat with holy water, clearly didn't help his daughter from being any less of a sinner) and because of her up bringing the way she approaches relationships and sexual relationships is really emotionally stunted because obviously her parents didn't teach her how to navigate relationships in a way that's healthy. Apparently according to her, her parents tried to get her married to an older man when she was only 17-18 which is fucking traumatizing. So that explains her behaviour when it comes to guys.

She will get very emotionally attached very quickly to the guys that she likes and because she's wearing rose colored glasses, she will not see the red flags that are presenting themselves right infront of her.

For example:

TW: Mentions of rape

She told me that when she was with her previous boyfriend she found out that he apparently RAPED a girl and even knowing that she didn't break up with him. They split it off because of reasons completely unrelated.

So now ya'll have some more insight as to why SPECIFICALLY I don't trust this girl and her taste in men. She has the survival instincts of a walnut, and she can GENUINELY bring a Richard Ramirez type of mf into the flat.

I could write a whole novel about all the crap this girl has done. This story is just the tip of the iceberg. I ONLY JUST MET HER MARCH OF THIS YEAR TOO.

Anyways that's it, shout out to all the people in the comments who validated my feelings and encouraged me to talk to my land lord about it, I hope all of your internet bills for the month get paid off by a random person in your life 😭.

I (20F) live in a flat filled with girls that I just moved into this year.

One of my flatmates, let's just call her bean, is to be honest, extremely boy crazy to the detriment of our other female flat mates.

There have been multiple times when she has invited random dudes over for hook ups and to stay the night and one of our poor flat mates that has a room right next to her's is subjected to hearing all the tom foolery.

So let me give ya'll some backstory as to how Bean and this guy met.

Me, Bean, and another flatmate were getting ready to go out to town one night for one last time before this other flatmate had to move out shortly.

Bean had invited her 'friends' (a straight couple in an open relationship that was planning on having a threesome with bean) to the pre games. I know it's crazy.

The guy in the open relationship said that he was going to invite one of his mates to the pre games. Let's call his mate sprout.

So sprout comes along with us into town to drink, and it was very obvious the whole night that bean and sprout were flirting with each other. And when I mean by flirting, I mean talking about kinks with each other and talking about putting each other in hand cuffs.

We eventually come home, and as soon as these two enter the flat, they just go straight to Bean's room to go at it.

They were in bean's room for an EXTREMELY long time. Sprout's friend decided to knock on the door and drunkenly ask if Sprout was gonna stay. Me and the flatmate that are sitting in the living room together exclaim "NO HE IS NOT!" because we have had multiple conversations with bean about not bringing some random man home and having him stay the night because that's unsafe for her and all of the other flat mates.

Bean then comes to the door and screams at us through the closed door saying "IDGAF ABOUT WHAT THESE TWO BITCHES IN THE LIVING ROOM HAVE TO SAY, HE'S STAYING WITH ME!"

Luckily my flat mate came to her door to gently calm her down, cause if she didn't do that I was gonna whoop her.

So I go to sleep, and the next day rolls around. I wake up in the morning and hear a male voice in the living room. Sprout was still fucking here. His friend went home and he was still here in the living room while bean is giving him the house wife treatment, making him breakfast and all.

This is one of many times where bean has crossed our boundaries when it comes to inviting random men over to the flat.

Now time for the meat and potatoes. A couple days after, bean is telling me how inlove she is with sprout. She said after they hooked up, they talked all night about eachothers lives and personal stories, and she said that she felt like she was speed dating and that she knew everything about him now. (Sure you do.)

Sprout is in the army and was leaving soon to go to work or whatever people do when they're in the army. So Bean was chatting with him as much as possible before he had to leave through instagram DMs. But obviously, not a lot of talking would have been done during that stage since Sprout is not allowed to have his phone with him during that time cause again he's in the army.

During that time, Bean tells me that Sprout may or may not be coming back to the flat around the start of July to stay with us for 2 to 3 days. I begrudgingly tell her it's chill with me because 2 to 3 days is not a long time.

Fast forward, I am now visiting family in my home town for my semster break and 3 days before I have to leave to go back to the flat I get message from the flat group chat from Bean. She basically tells us that her partner is coming to stay with us starting from Sunday for 2 fucking weeks.

Bitch excuse me.

First off I'm completely blind sided, she said to me that he might be staying for 2-3 days not fuckin 14. At that point that is no longer just a visit he may aswell just live here.

But most importantly, this man is practically a stranger. She has spoken to him in real life one time for only a couple of hours. They then communicated with each other on Instagram for a week before he had to leave for the army. Their communication would have been radio silent until he was done with his work after weeks. She has barely spoken to this man, and she is acting like just because she's had a couple of DeEp conversations with him that she knows everything about him.

Finding out about this information at the very last minute was extremely annoying, especially since I just found out that he was going to already be there at night when I came back to the flat.

I texted my two other flat mates to see if they were comfortable with him staying over for so long, and both of them told me no. Both of them talked about how she would say to them that Sprout is coming over but would not tell them a specific date and how many days he would here. So her telling us this information so last minute caught all of us off guard.

So at this point, because I was afraid to come back home, I had decided to post pone my bus ride back home for 2 more weeks so I don't have to live with him.

But the other two flat mates are still living there and are very uncomfortable knowing that Sprout is there so ultimately I make the decision to tell bean about how uncomfortable we all are with him being there and how she should of communicated with us better.

I'll insert the screenshots at the top.

Miss girl responded at the speed of light with this huge paragraph and clearly did not read a single point that I made, just continued to drone on about 'dw you won't even see him.'

At some point she tries accusing ME for not telling her sooner FACE TO FACE about being uncomfortable. When she literally is telling me last minute new information about his stay while I'm in my hometown, do you want me to take a bus back home early just to tell you how uncomfortable I am in person like girl wtf 😭.

Anyways after going back and forth with her, she finally told me that he would now be staying with friends for the rest of his time here.

(But on the positive side I coped this tf hoodie for only $30)