u/anunwrittenword

Hi people, I never have used reddit before but something happened and I really need unbiased opinions.
My parents are divorced. We don’t have a schedule for stays, me and my younger brother usually stay at my mom’s house because my dad is usually at work, but we stay with him when we feel like it.
Well for a month, probably even more, I stayed at my dad’s because I felt really guilty for not staying with him for a long period of time. It’s really chill, he doesn’t have many rules and since he doesn’t have much food at home we always order whatever food we want. But recently he did/said some stuff that really made me uncomfortable and I don’t know what to do about it.
Last week, he picked me up from a hangout with a friend. In the car, he asked chatgpt (I dont like him using ai either) a question, I don’t remember which one. The female ai voice answered, and he answered “thanks sugar” in a very weird way. I don’t usually care, or even notice when anyone says that type of stuff but this time was different, I don’t know how to explain it but it was degrading in a way. He then told the ai to “shut its mouth”, and when the ai replied that it couldn’t do it itself he called it useless.
Now, I don’t care about an ai’s feelings for it doesn’t have any. I couldn’t care less. But it’s the fact that my dad always had female assistants all his life, and his behaviour to an ai which he clearly saw as an assistant just felt very uncomfortable. I didn’t say anything though

The other event, which was the most important one I think, happened at home. I was eating pizza that I ordered, and I was already annoyed at something that happened before so I might’ve acted a bit cold/rude towards my dad. I felt bad, so when I was done eating I went up to him to hug him. We hugged, and he said “you know, usually little girls aren’t allowed to hug me like that.” I still don’t know what exactly that means. I really don’t. It was a normal hug. I backed away a bit, ended the hug and looked at him confused, but didn’t ask anything. He then offered me some candy that he bought. I refused, then he offered me again, and again, almost forcing me but i just said no and walked away. I called my mom to pick me up.
I didn’t explain what happened to her, nor to anyone because it’s very uncomfortable and if I’m overreacting people will call me the weird one.
For a couple of days after what happened i was sure that i wasn’t overreacting and that it was just weird. But now I’m unsure. Nothing like this happened before this, and I feel like my dad’s demeanour and his vibe changed. I don’t know how to explain it to anyone else and I don’t want to.
I thank you for your advice and I apologize for my English because it’s not my first language.