Leaning to the kids side of the fence, how do I work through this with my partner?
I’m 32f have been on the fence for a while but the last few months I feel like my decision about my future has become clearer and that I would like one or two kids. My partner (35m) however doesn’t want kids. This conversation didn’t come up until 2 years in unfortunately after I already felt like I knew I wanted to spend my life with him.
Here’s the dilemma. My partner helps out with his 30 year old brother who doesn’t work because he gets bad migraines and his aging father (72). He lives with them currently and I’ve asked him what our future would look like if we move forward. He didn’t know because of the responsibilities he has to his family and said there wasn’t any way he could plan for it. I disagree about the planning part. I also recently asked him if he would feel differently about kids if he didn’t have all of those family responsibilities and he told me that he probably would. He said two months ago that he would go to therapy to discuss some of his issues but he still hasn’t gone. Meanwhile I feel like I’m getting frustrated bc I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself and he isn’t making any forward progress.
I love him so much but I don’t know how to work this all out. I’m so scared of losing him. Any advice would be appreciated.