Disability Dating & PMDD ... give up?
Bc PMDD is an invisible condition, when people meet me they assume that all of my life is going well bc of all the native privileges that I have (1st world citizen, highly educated, attractive, sporty), but then when they date me they see the underbelly of how globally disabling my condition has been to my life. Before I got struck down by extreme fatigue I would have finished the path to become a high earner in the medical field, but bc I spend two weeks in pain and fatigue, I have cobbled together interesting less well paid intellectually rewarding work that allows me to work from bed. I tend to attract, sadly, overachiever types. But whenever I do date less ambitious men they still get intimidated by me bc despite having this condition I've still able to work several dream jobs.
My question is on top of addressing my own internalized ableism, how do you attract an understanding partner? I feel bc my only super long term committed relationship ended bc he had no ability to accommodate my disability (he wanted me to work full time so we could afford a bigger mortgage payment), that I date with the idea that once someone knows the full scope of my disability and the financial fall out that's accompanied it, that no one can ever love me. Help and encouragement needed. I also hate the patriarchy which is an additional level on top of all this and Covid cautious bc I don't want to get long covid on top of PMDD disablement which robs me of two weeks every month.