Vaginismus worse if he touches my urethra?
I’m with my first bf and he also was/is a virgin so we‘re still learning basics of sex at the moment lol even though we’re mid 20s
I haven’t managed to do PIV at all yet i think because of vaginismus. But I noticed it’s a lot worse if he’s trying to finger me/do PIV rather than when im doing it to myself. And i think it could be because when he’s trying to find the vagina he accidentally touches my urethra which hurts so I clench.
idk if it’s normal to get pain from that, because theyre so close together, surely for most ppl it would be expected to occasionally touch it during sex right? But for me it feels horrible, if he so much as brushes against it I instantly clench and lose all my arousal
basically asking here to see if this is normal and any advice. do you think it would help if I literally point out to him my urethra and im like please avoid?
also if I compare how my vulva looks to vulva anatomy diagrams, my urethra and vagina are way closer together like literally right next to each other