Asian Culture Sucks
A lot of the Asian culture loves to avoid the idea of mental health as well as criminal actions such as sexual abuse to avoid a bad reputation.
For 10 years, I was sexually abused by an uncle. There would be days where I wake up and he would be on top of me. He even gave me money after he abused me while holding and taking care of his daughter who at the time was a baby. All of this started at the age of 5. Fast forward to age 22 where my now husband helped me open up about my trauma. I was able to start a case and report him while 21 others started opening up and telling their story to help support the case. Meanwhile my Asian, parents and aunts and uncles told me not to report him and to think about what it would do to his family. Of course I didn’t listen. I decided to continue on.
A year later he was supposed to go on trial, but instead he fled to the Philippines and now there is a warrant out for his arrest. Fast forward four years later, he’s still in the Philippines, most likely abusing others. I found out today that my uncle who is a cop would’ve been able to arrest him and bring him back to the United States. But my very toxic parents told my uncle not to arrest him and to leave him be.
It hurts so much to know that my parents can’t even protect their own children, but instead protect the person who hurt their kids the most. I thought I lost my parents in the process of all of this because I didn’t know that they were a culprit in all of this. now I realize I really did lose them because why should I allow myself to be around people who is supposed to love you the most, but choose to protect those who hurt them.