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We're a family of four all adults. Parents and then kids in mid 20s. This started because I wanted to give my parents a gift. But now I wanna see how to squeeze my sibling and I into it. This trip would be for October this year. Starting in the first week of October. They are going on a cruise in Alaska (the gift) but it's only for 7 days and wanted them to have something more

We probably are not gonna get a chance to do something like this again mostly due to finances so I'm trying to squeeze what I can from this. To do that I wanted to visit two islands over a 10 to 12 day period. Leaning towards BI and Kauai. BI I think should be the sure one but I don't know about Kauai

You can't really use this sub to gauge which is better between Kauai and Oahu. It seems there really isn't a consensus. To help you help me let me just say what kind of people we are. So we probably won't be doing much swimming in the sea. I can't swim and neither can my mum. We would all want to try a variety of food. We would want lots of varying experiences. From what I read about manta rays we won't be in deep waters right? I would like to see a volcano. I don't know about the hiking world but I did do the colosseum and the palantine hill in one day and didn't die. My parents would be on that same similar level of fitness. My parents and I did do a day at a natural reserve in Nigeria(where they live) which involved going on the 401 metre long, 70 feet above ground suspended bridge through the forest. We really enjoyed it. We would want to be wowed by the stars. I don't see the point of being at the beach all day unless I'm eating from every food truck but the beach for half a day won't be too bad.

If I seem all over the place forgive me but vacations are not something we're able to do often to figure out what our tastes are. Which is why varying experiences would be best. I don't really know what Hawaii offers I'm just getting into research but I'm pressed for time

I'm not sure which 2nd island to pick between Oahu and Kauai. Depending on which person is talking Oahu or Kauai is the best thing ever. Or should we stick to just visiting BI instead for all 10 days?

Thank you.

I want to gift my parents a cruise and was just getting into researching for the first time about a week ago and I'm overwhelmed. I'm looking through the Costco website since I have membership that I'm hoping will net me some savings.

I was thinking of having them do the 16 night Hawaii cruise but then looking at the itinerary they will spend a lot of time just at sea cruising whereas most of the stops would be packed into a 5 day period. So I thought why not do the packed 7 day Hawaii cruise and then a 7 day Alaska cruise to give them a breadth of experiences. But apparently I'm basically too late for Alaska because the good season ends in September. Also I just realized we're in hurricane season.

Has anyone ever double barrelled their cruises like this?

Also am I too late for a good Alaska experience? I'm targeting doing this in September.

F*ck hurricane season will affect cruises right? But if they're running during the season it means they feel it will be safe right?

I'm trying to plan it in such a way they won't have to do excessive flying for the entire thing. And oh, they aren't US citizens. They have B1/B2 visas. They don't live in the states but in Nigeria, that's why I have to really plan to streamline flight costs and possibly hotel costs. Because of this hulabaloo with immigration, they need to be done inside a month to avoid issues.

The hotel costs might be inevitable so they won't be stressed landing in Seattle/Honolulu to go straight to a cruise. And unfortunately finding somewhere to stay in between cruises. I'm really trying to find a way to limit the time between cruises.

With the advent of AI people are saying what the job requires has shifted from being a code monkey to needing to understand system design and architecture

What architectural decisions are y'all making and I'm being dead serious. What are you finding you are having to do in your day to day now? I need a breakdown if you could be as explicit as possible. I feel like the reason most of us, including me, were code monkeys is because that's all the job required. We would be added to teams where they'd already mapped out the system and what they were going to use and all my job was, was to close yet another JIRA ticket regarding yet another CRUD app(yes I did do stuff beyond adding another rest method and do know that coding business logic is not as straightforward as I'm making it sound)

Are you guys really having to choose whether you'll use Postgres or Mongo? Are you thinking about latency and what not? I'm trying to understand what's going on in your head now

I feel like the people who say these things are working at FAang where they do cutting edge stuff frequently.

Unfortunately I have become privy to this fan war and I really wanted to ignore it but I have some things I need help with

So one of the criticisms I'm seeing for kataang is that it's a self insert. I don't know who the person they say is self inserting but to me that should not be listed in a criticism for this ship unless you already did not like this ship. Which ties death of the author into this. Unless the authors biases are so egregious like in vampire diaries for example, it should not be a criticism. Apparently one of the authors was using Katara as a self insert for the babysitter he liked. Did it really mess with Kataras characterisation that much?

I've also been seeing a lot about Aang yelling at Katara in the movie and she was OOC by just standing there and taking it. Is that what happened? If he was yelling do you think it's a mark against his character and their relationship.

Also was Katara all over Aang in the movie? That og Katara would not act like that. They said he was uncomfortable and was basically pushing her away and it was yet again another evidence that her character was being butchered just to keep Kataang together.

I've also seen what I feel is frankly a ridiculous criticism that Kataang is suffering from "the hero always gets the girl" trope and that's one of the reasons why Kataang is trash. How does this apply with Kataang. I was very satisfied watching this as a child and don't wanna rewatch just to critique it through a shipping lens. Or maybe what I'm trying to say is that there was nothing wrong with the hero getting the girl in this instance. And is Zuko not a hero as well? At least he became one

Also I just saw one where they were rejecting the criticism of their ship being a self insert by mentioning the aforementioned creators self insert but by also saying that Kataang should not have been a thing because it uses the "attractive girl falls for unconventional looking guy" trope. So it is about looks then and the prefer that ship because of what Zuko looks like? I saw one say that Zuko looks better than Aang and I don't knock people for shipping based on looks but that's not really a negative for Kataang.

Also about the puberty thing. They say aang was prepubescent to Kataras pubescent and I can't help but think that he would have become pubescent by the literal next year but that feels like a cheap defense idk.

This was rambly and I don't know if I'm asking a question or what but I just needed to let it out

Oh and another thing. They say Aang had no character development in comparison to Zuko and something about that rankles. Of course somebody going from villain or antagonist to hero would have a more dramatic visible change. What are they saying Aang should have gone through? Should he have struggled more to learn a bending style or what? It's kind of how people criticize Izuku and the only problem I have with Izuku is that his personal struggles with being quirk less disappear after getting a quirk and that's something that should have been increasingly explored instead. If not at the ending which they didn't do. Does Aang suffer from the same thing. I'm tired of having the heros journey compared to the antagonists journey especially when the antagonist gets on a journey the protagonist is already on.