u/aspirationcaught

A couple days ago I was at the bar, had some good fun all night. Had some good conversations and heard some solid music. Then at the end of the night this guy I've never seen before seems to spawn in out of nowhere, hadn't seen him all night so I don't reckon he'd been there the whole time. He beelines towards me and compliments my piercings. Sure. I thank him. Then he starts to go on about how he's so excited to meet another queer person, says he's a he/they, asks my pronouns. Fwiw I don't think he's a poon, I'm fairly sure he's a theymab. Otherwise he's a gigaluckshit as far as facial hair goes lel he mogged the shit out of me.

He tells me a bit about himself, again mentions how he feels like there's a very small queer population where we are and that he's happy to have found "community" because he's having issues with his identity. I made the horrible mistake of telling him I'm a trans male but I told him I'm not queer, I have a girlfriend, and I have very little to do with the LGBT community at large.

Eventually I make my way outside to go smoke before I head home. He eventually appears nearby and we talk a bit more, he starts farming sympathy out of me by going on about how he's got short term memory issues and asks for my name again. No big deal, not my problem, I tell him it's fine and oblige. Then as he's leaving he very obviously goes in for a kiss on the mouth but I had a nanosecond to dodge it and ended up with his spit on my right cheek instead. Fucking hell. So I ask him what the fuck that was about, he tries to be all cheeky and tell me "come on, it's just a kiss!!1!111!1!!🫣🫣🤫". I waited for him to fuck off so I could wipe his spit off my face and go home.

Why are they all like this? This is why I hate being seen as queer. I know I look a certain way but if he listened at all to what I told him about myself he'd have known I am not what he thinks I am. I don't swing, I don't want to kiss people I barely know, let alone men. I have a partner. We are not open. He doesn't know her.

Later on while on my way home I had the epiphany that his memory issues could be a setup for him "forgetting" about my girlfriend so he can go ahead and kiss me whenever he wants. I could be looking too far into it but the whole thing pissed me off. Soured my impression of the night a bit regardless of how much fun I did have before that point.

God forbid I ever see him again but if I do I might chat to him about it. Bullshit