u/atrueshaytan

Why is there so much delusion+ overestimation about how much a south asian male is actually worth??

Imma be honest, I find the conversations going on in r/abcdesis and other desi forums to be really odd. Same with societal customs in south asia too.

There was this post recently on abcdesis where some ridiculous person visited this sub and then proceeded to ask on r/abcdesis if the dating scene between desi women and men is really that bad in america. And it really made me realize how odd desi ppl are. Like how retarded do u have to be to assume that people only date out bcuz of "the current relationship between x and x group"???

I'm not indian but I am a south asian- and I dont think I've ever, in my entire life been attracted to south asian men. The reason I've always dated out is simply bcuz the features I find attractive are uncommon in desi men. On top of that, I really am against the idea that u should bond with people solely based on "culture". I've never in my entire life believed that I have some ✨️special✨️ connection to desi men bcuz of culture. With desi women? Sure, there is definitely a sisterhood between me, my family members and my closest friends- but I'm confused on why this "connection" would extend to desi men. Men are men, and men overall dont relate to women- doesnt matter what ethnicity we are talking about.

I honestly find it super odd that there are girls out there who defend desi men bcuz they are apparently their "brothers". Like WTF?? That is a random fucking man. Random desi men are not your "brothers".

I've never heard of desi men calling desi women their "sisters" and their ultimate comrades or some weird cringe shit like that.

I feel like a lot of women are highly delusion and have this almost parasocial relationship to desi manhood. Like a lot of desi girls low key think that they are men and that they are "one of the boys" and therefore should defend desi men. Why would u do that as a WOMAN??

Now does this mean I never defend men? Nope I do defend the men closest to me- like my male friends and sometimes my dad. But does this comradeship and allyship extend to my cousins, uncles or other men in my family? Absolutely not! Im not close enough nor do they care enough about me for me to give a crap about them. The only men I support are the ones that support me. Everyone else is simply an afterthought or a nuisance (if they dare to bother me).

I also find it really annoying how the assumption when desi men date out- that it's simply a preference meanwhile if desi girls date out it cant POSSIBLY be a preference. As if desi men are the hottest men on the planet or some weird shit like that. This is what I mean by the desi community overestimating how much a desi man is worth. Like WHYYYY would u assume that my core preference for men is south asian men?? Like what is even going on?🤣

This is honestly why I fucking hate pickme's- these types of women try to force everyone to prefer desi men and then get mad when that backfires. These women are like obnoxious vegans who try to force everyone to become vegans and then proceed to accuse you of being a killer when u dont want to follow their bland diet. Like god forbid people have different tastes, if you have your own taste then it must be sElFhaTe🤪

I also feel like people being this nosy and delusional is due to desi culture in itself. I feel like a lot of desi girls get told from a very young age that they HAVE TO prioritize marriage to specifically a desi male from a very young age. This insanity leads to a lot of girls developing an almost insane obsession with the concept of marriage and desi men. So much so that there are delusional women out there who actually pay dowry to some fugly mid-guy to marry them. Like how insanely obsessed and delusional do you have to be to PAY to marry a man and then proceed to get killed because you apparently didnt pay enough?

Why walk into a red flag that ends with you finding a bull behind the flag? Are you a fucking matador? Are you the master of crazy people??

I'm honestly getting tired of women constantly encouring a parasocial relationship to desi men and desi culture. A lot of women see themselves (and other women) and their own wellbeing as collateral damage if it means they can fulfill certain fantasies/delusions/expectations. This means that you are highly impractical, have poor judgement and foresight- which is why u continiously choose to deal with obnoxious men and garbage culture.

To end this post I'll say this- my preferences are my fucking preferences. And getting overtly emotional about my preferences is not allowed. You deal with your emotions by yourself, you DONT whine about ppl having a different taste. Kindly stop being a nuisance, and mind your own fucking business.

Im making this post bcuz Im genuinly curious how many more have experienced this. This is my second time experiencing this, and my oh my I am very flattered that you want me to die. Because you know what that means?? It means that my posts triggers u so much that you jump around in rage- this also means that I have achieved what I truly enjoy- which is to piss people of to the max! I love knowing that people are squirming and crawling in pain from reading my posts!

...BUT I wont be killing myself anytime soon bcuz if I die- then who is going torture u? I am a shaytan after all👹 MuHaHaHa!!!!

So there has been some...talk on vindictabrown (as usual) about how sad (🤧😱) it is that the members of splendidabrown dont defend desi men 24/7. Apparently we HAVE TO worship the ground desi men walk on OR ELSE we are:  anti-desi community sepoy sluts non-desi male fetischizing non-traditional delusional whitewashed SeLfHaTing ugLy WHOORESSS!!!

According to these women, anyone who dates a non-desi man dates someone who looks like an absolute shrek because desi men are apparently the purdiesst little beauty queens with butterfly wings and smell like cupcakes uwu🥰🥰  they are sooo much better than everyone else apparently. They even glitter in the sunlight like fictional vampires (oh my!! Why didnt I know about this desi male fact before!!😱).

Desi men are just the most magical of beings, so ethereal, so otherwordly🤧🤧

Now this is something that we as mods find very very strange, which is why we dont allow these types of women on the sub. The pickme's are of the typical kind- these are women who will give u 1000 different reasons to why u must prefer desi men and each of those 1000 reasons will make zero sense. A common argument is that not preferring desi men is "selfhate", which to me is very strange. I have as a woman NEVER identified as a man and I have zero clue why I have to allow a desi man to fornicate with me to reach "selflove". By this logic any woman who isnt attracted to men or is asexual is automatically a "selfhater". If we follow the logical fallacies of the shaytan pickme- selflove can only be reached thru the validation from men of your own ethnicity. The pickme wants to instill within you the belief that you are merely "Adams rib", meaning that as a woman you are not whole as yourself and must allow yourself to be dissolved into a man like a submissive amoeba. This means that as a woman- your own sense of identity and your own relationship to your culture/cultures doesnt matter at all- you are only allowed a connection to your culture if you are attached to a man within that culture. This means- that as a desi woman you MUST like and be willing to fuck a desi man OR ELSE u are a "culture-destroying self-hating" whore. Because the pickme's believe that a sense of "self" comes from the proximity/connection to desi men.

I personally find this absolutely fucking braindead and see this as just another attempt at keeping women in their "place". I have never seen desi men as people who "own" desi women. Desi cultures seems to love torturing women and forcing them into weird religious/cultural beliefs that emphasizes that desi men own the souls of desi women. There seems to be this unwritten rule that WE MUST be vessels to extract energy from. I DONT SEE MYSELF as a vessel.

I am not a desi mans vessel, I refuse to allow desi men any proximity to me so they can extract my life force. Pickme's can scream "selfhate" at the top of their lungs but they will never be right, because a desi woman will always be a desi woman no matter what her relationship to desi men is. A huge portion of south asian culture was created by south asian women- so even if all south asian men die we will still own our culture and change/adept it to our needs/preferences.

Another reason why this "selfhate" argument fails is because these pickme's rarely accuse desi men of selfhate when they date out. This is because of two reasons, one is that the pickme sees herself as a servant to desi men and the second reason is that the pickme is a handler/pimp to desi men.

As a servant to desi men- she (the pickme) sees herself as someone who cant critisize desi men. She is merely a submissive eunuch loser woman who repeats like a parrot everything that desi men tells her. She believes that it is her duty to turn everyone into a eunuch loser just like her. A desi man can in that sense not do anything wrong according to the servant/eunuch pickme- she wants all other women to get humiliated by men just like her.

As a handler/pimp to desi men, she believes that it is her responsibility to make sure that desi men always have slaves to humiliate. Older women like mothers, grandmas and aunties often belong to this category. These are the original pimps/handlers who will make sure that you are the slave of her son, grandson etc. This is also the reason I believe women like this needs a punch to their jaw the minute u marry into their families. If they cant keep the men in their family IN LINE they are bad matriarchs and deserve a kick to their heads for being pimps/handlers. A woman who fails to keep her sons wellbehaved enough for a future wife should be kicked out of the house. A woman who always defends a husband/son/grandson who is in the wrong should be handled with the same brutality that she dishes out.

And for the pickme's who are super mad and shitting their pants about this post- mind your own fucking business and give desi men the same energy that you give desi women. I can guarantee you that you will become a desi mans 20th wife or have a man accuse you of being a jealous ugly bitch.