u/b4olli

I (21F) wanted to travel to Norway forever! I learned Norwegian and immersed myself in the culture for years, so I was ecstatic when my friend (21M) said he's going and asked if I want to meet him there. Of course I said yes, but he said he was going camping and I decided I wanted to stay in an Airbnb in the city so I can see everything there.

I paid for the place for 7 days, and he asked if he could stay with me until I left, because he planned on going camping for a long time. I said sure, since we got along well. YES I TOLD THE HOST A GUY WAS STAYING OVER, and she said it as fine. I get there, and he arrives on day 2 of my stay. I walked him back to the Airbnb and we sit and chat for a while, but then he declares he’s exhausted and passes out on the bed. Mind this, I asked him when we arrived if he would take a shower and he said yes, but he said he wouldn’t wash his hair. Let me tell you about his hair, it’s waistlength but he keeps it up in a hat. It was so greasy and it smelled awful, but declared he cant wash it because the dye would stain my host’s shower. I cringed but whatever.

The thing is, he traveled roughly the same amount of time as me, he’s just a bit further north and he was SWEATY. I mean it really smelled like feet. I’m a bit germphobic too, so seeing him roll around in his sweat and airplane germs in the middle of my clean bed kinda freaked me out. I sat on the floor for a bit, but then the whole room started smelling as so I literally had to go in the living room. It was getting pretty late, like 22:00, and he still was passed out. It’s my bedtime, and I’m exhausted from walking around central station all day. The smell was just terrible, you couldn’t ignore it. I opened the windows but it didn’t do much

I texted with my mom, asking what to do, she said to just tell him to get up and shower. I did but he wouldn’t respond. I was really tired so I yelled a bit like “I paid for this room and I can’t even sleep in it because it smells so bad, please take a shower”. Then my mom said to just pull him off so I did, and he took a shower. It still smelled bad btw because of his hair, but then the host came over and asked to talk with me

I told her the situation and she asked if I was comfortable having him stay with me. Well when I booked the room, I didn’t realize that it was only one bed first of all, so it was pretty intimate since we’d only went out together maybe 4 times. Of course I should’ve realized when I arrived, but when he was there it was also more uncomfortable than I was expecting. She suggested he stay in a nearby hotel for the night, and so we told him that would be best. She helped him find a place and he left.

The next day, he didn’t answer me at all (and still hasn’t) and I actually had a pretty good day alone. Later that evening, maybe 19:00, the host comes back home and there I am, having a break. She asks to talk with me and said the situation with my friend made her feel strange and that it’d be best if I stayed elsewhere. It was just really scary and confusing because it was getting kinda late already, I don’t know why she didn’t leave me a note earlier or something. Also, I thought of myself as a pretty good houseguest. I didn't make a mess, I was quiet, I fed her cat, I didn’t even cook or use her products because I felt bad.

I felt kinda defeated, since well now I was alone, my mom’s missing me so much, and I saw a lot of cool things that I wanted to already, so I decided I’ll just go home. She walked me to central station and I sat around for a while, deciding what to do.

My question is, am I really in the wrong? Isn’t it weird how it turned out? Please let me know :’)