u/bakedd_alaskaa

So it’s New Orleans. I get it. So many better places to eat than McDonald’s. But as a poor student sometimes a basically next to nothing meal at a drive-thru is what I need.

I swear to god I’ve always been weirdly proud of Popeye’s because it’s so cool to have a cultural export like that from our city. I feel myself get kind of hyped when I see one in Lima, Peru or wherever cause holy shit how cool is it that there’s an entire fast casual place based off of New Orleans? “Louisiana Fast” is printed on the paper when I’ve been to the Philippines. That’s so cool. I’m prideful.

That being said you know where Popeye’s is better? Like almost fucking anywhere else. Like Lima. Manila. Boston. Seattle. Fucking Des Moines, man 🤣

Like does anyone else order fast food here off an app and half the time half the food is missing? Why specifically New Orleans? I know we HATE efficiency here but they all suck. Sorry just kind of a rant today but I’m so sick of fucking everything being slightly lower quality in an everyday sense. I love our culture and am so proud to be from here but you know where you don’t wait for the bus for over 45 minutes after it was meant to show up? Anywhere else in the developed world. Again I LOVE being from here. But so many little things I have to deal with as an average, working person in terms of convenience are so fucking frustrating when they add up. Yeah I love I can get a drink at Ms. Mae’s at anytime. I also am tired of our roads destroying my fucking car because I’m 28 and it’s pathetic having to call my parents and ask for help because a pothole just … opened up. Feeling frustrated today after a hard week. Rant done.

So I want to say right off the bat - I know damn well that a lot of you are just as confused by this as I am. But maybe you can provide some perspective as to some women you may know in your lives do things like this?
Friend and I of over a decade were talking about dating and she kept making jokes about "the apps" in the gay world. I laughed and said she had to ask someone else because l'd just never been into hookups. She then went on this weird tangent that l've had so many female friends do over the years where they seemingly try to gently suggest that between that and me just kind of being not very stereotypically gay (whatever that means?) that I may have some "internalized homophobia" to unpack.
I'm not going to lie. I find this extremely insulting. Possibly more so than they could know. The notion that gay men are very self-hating is nothing new. But l've never said or done anything to suggest that men who do use those apps or date in that way are morally in the wrong. I genuinely do not care. I'm happy for them. Sometimes I wish I could be more like them. But I'm just not wired that way. And that's fine. I'm also fine with kind of just having a very whatever view of my own masculinity. I've never really struggled with being a bit of an average joe when it comes to how I present myself.
So yeah. I'd love to hear you gals' thoughts. Fuck it. Guys you’re fine to answer your best guess, too! Most women I've asked about the phenomenon are incredibly confused but express that it must be coming from a combination of women's histories with being slut-shamed. Which makes sense. When l've asked other gay men about it (many of which have expressed that it's been common for them as well to hear this) they've postured that it may come from these women watching gay male content creators who rant about their experiences. So they're trying to help me with this information they've learned? I don't know. I'm confused. Looking forward to any answers.

Edit: Some people are asking why I didn’t ask her reasoning. I did I’m a pretty confrontational person (in a nice way). She kind of just got mad and and started stumbling over her words.

So I want to say right off the bat - I know damn well that a lot of you are just as confused by this as I am. But maybe you can provide some perspective as to some women you may know in your lives do things like this?
Friend and I of over a decade were talking about dating and she kept making jokes about "the apps" in the gay world. I laughed and said she had to ask someone else because l'd just never been into hookups. She then went on this weird tangent that l've had so many female friends do over the years where they seemingly try to gently suggest that between that and me just kind of being not very stereotypically gay (whatever that means?) that I may have some "internalized homophobia" to unpack.
I'm not going to lie. I find this extremely insulting. Possibly more so than they could know. The notion that gay men are very self-hating is nothing new. But l've never said or done anything to suggest that men who do use those apps or date in that way are morally in the wrong. I genuinely do not care. I'm happy for them. Sometimes I wish I could be more like them. But I'm just not wired that way. And that's fine. I'm also fine with kind of just having a very whatever view of my own masculinity. I've never really struggled with being a bit of an average joe when it comes to how I present myself.
So yeah. I'd love to hear you gals' thoughts. Guys feel free to throw your hat into the ring, too. Most women I've asked about the phenomenon are incredibly confused but express that it must be coming from a combination of women's histories with being slut-shamed. Which makes sense. When l've asked other gay men about it (many of which have expressed that it's been common for them as well to hear this) they've postured that it may come from these women watching gay male content creators who rant about their experiences. So they're trying to help me with this information they've learned? I don't know. I'm confused. Looking forward to any answers.

Edit: Some people are asking why I didn’t ask her reasoning. I did I’m a pretty confrontational person (in a nice way). She kind of just got mad and and started stumbling over her words.