u/beeongguk

I moved into my home January 2025 and since then haven't interacted with my neighbour once. I like to keep to myself, I'm quiet, I have a cat, and I live alone — I don't party, I don't play loud music, I work a 9-5. I don't like bothering anybody, and I generally keep to myself (maybe I'm boring or it's the autism, I don't know, it's not that relevant).

I'm writing this from the couch, in tears, past midnight on a Tuesday so bear with me.

When I first moved in, I noticed the neighbour had a pile of bin bags in the garden, with food items spilling out. I gave her the benefit of the doubt, that they were maybe doing a big clear out or something - but months passed and they remained, I worried about rodents and thought the easiest non-confrontational thing to do was report it to the council line. I now regret it.

Since moving in my neighbour has repeatedly had 11PM - 4AM karaoke sessions, on random days. This is multiple times a week. It's usually a single Tate McRae song on repeat.

She also has shouting matches with her partner, kicking him out frequently, at all times of the day or night.

I don't like confrontation. I don't retaliate. I just put up with it and move on with my life, I just want an easy life.

Last night was a breaking point - 3AM she's singing until about 5AM. I barely got sleep. Tonight she's been singing again from about 11PM - and I couldn't handle it. I hit the wall. I didn't say anything I just hit the wall a couple of times.

Then it started: screaming at me for being a prick through the door, telling me to come knock on her door, that I'm a cunt etc. I regretted it immediately. I was giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wasn't aware of how loud she was, I don't know, and it backfired.

She's since (in the middle of the night) shoved a letter through my door, and slammed the letterbox repeatedly (I have ring doorbell footage). The letter accuses me of reporting her several times (I've only complained the once), to 'enjoy the music' and that she's going through something at the moment and not to piss her off. She also accuses me of having a camera pointing at her back garden, I don't even have a camera (outside of the one on my front door)? It says that she'll report me back (again, that's irrelevant because I don't do anything). I'm currently on the couch because she's playing music in retaliation out loud, and I think this is going to be me going forward.

I submitted a noise complaint to the council before I had banged on the wall, and now I'm worried that I'm going to make it all worse. I just want to be left alone. I'm scared, as pathetic as it sounds. Does anybody have advice? Thank you! 🥲

EDIT: Thank you to everyone who has commented, even just the kind messages have really helped me settle. It's appreciated far more than you can imagine! I'm keeping a log of all the noise going forward with timestamps and video recordings for the council, and the moment she tries to escalate it will be reported to the non emergency police line.