u/bigudilyas

I (30M) go to a nice gym with a health suite. We have a sauna, a steam room, cold plunges and a hot tub. So last night after my work out I changed my clothes, took a shower and got into the hot tub. About 3 minutes in, two women in their mid to late 20s approached the hot tub chatting and preparing to get in, when I saw them looking at me in a weird way. Then, they got into the hot tub but proceeded to look at me in a judging, even disgusted way.

I’m a fairly decent looking, well groomed gay guy so I didn’t really understand what was happening, so I checked myself but found nothing. Finally, about 2 minutes later one of them says “Are you getting out or not?” in a very pointed tone. I was like “well I just got in, so not really” and she said “We feel uncomfortable with a man here, you should really get out and come back later when we’re finished. A random man shouldn’t be sharing a hot tub with girls he doesn’t know” and I was like “well, I got here first and I’m minding my own business after a heavy workout. If you’re uncomfortable you can go to the sauna and come back when I’m done”. She got angry and started raising her voice saying “Men nowadays don’t know how to be a gentleman, we literally just asked you to come back when we’re done, why are you being a dick about it?” To say I was shocked is an understatement. But I was too tired to deal with it, so I got out, went to the steam room, waited for them to leave and then came back to finish my hot tub session. But this has left a very unpleasant feeling.

[EDIT]:

First of all, I fully support your frustration with me not fighting back, but I had a super long day at work, I did a heavy workout and at 9pm the last thing I needed was getting my nerves up. So I chose to leave.

I’ve been going to the same gym for 3 years and I’ve never experienced anything negative there so I won’t mention the name of the gym, because I really respect everyone there and don’t want to deter people from going just because of a couple of bad apples.

Our gym offers daily passes, so I’m just hoping they went for a cheap spa day rather than signed up for full membership.

I will be noting all the possible comebacks to use if they do this again, especially the “I have a boyfriend” and “let me just finish peeing”.

I didn’t really post here to brag about how good I am at fighting off karens, I just wanted to share an experience. If I was a good fiction writer, I would have made everyone clap in the end ❤️

Hello all! I suppose I’m just looking for a bit of encouragement. 8 months ago I failed my first test with 12 Grade 2s. A week before the test my driving school told me I needed at least 6 more lessons and that they wouldn’t rent me a car for the test until I do 6 more lessons and pass a mock test. I lost my mind and all the confidence. I’d been driving for 6 years at that point with my home country’s license (although an automatic), but the confidence was gone. I got an independent driving instructor and did a mock test with him and that time I managed to do 7 grade 2s, with most being observations. He said he was confident I was capable of passing. So the next quest was to find a car for the test. No school wanted to give me one without a mock test and I just didn’t have that kind of money. So, I took out a loan and bought a car. And I took that car to the test. The test was on a Friday, at 4pm, in a new car and I was just a ball of nerves. I failed with 12 Grade 2s. I’d say 70% was my nerves, 20% was a new car and 10% was lack of practice. A week after my failed test, I did another mock test and got 5 Grade 12s. Since then, for 8 months I’ve been driving a lot, practicing, doing all the right things. My friend who always accompanies me (as he has had his licence for 12 years) says the difference is night and day.

Tomorrow at 9:45 I have a lesson with my instructor and at 13:40 I have my test. I’m confident in my abilities, but I’m scared of my nerves getting the best of me. How do you stay calm before/during the test? When I was doing my test back at home I just chatted politics the whole way with the tester and passed on the first try. Here it’s the silence that gets to me. Any nerve-calming advice appreciated. 😊 Profile-divers willing to provide driving advice based on my first test sheet are requested to proceed to the next post.