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Looking for some honest advice from people in tech who may have navigated something similar.

I recently received a software engineering offer from a company I’m genuinely excited about. The compensation and growth opportunity are incredible, and the hiring manager/team conversations went really well. The team itself is geographically distributed across multiple offices/time zones, and the hiring manager described the work as operating very collaboratively over Slack/Zoom/travel.

The challenge is around relocation. Leadership/recruiting strongly prefer DC residency long term, even though there’s also an office in my current city (Atlanta). My hiring manager seemed operationally open to phased onboarding/travel flexibility, but the written offer still formally requires relocation within a few months.

I’m not trying to avoid collaboration or ask for permanent “never come onsite” remote work. I’m fully open to travel, onboarding onsite, and regular in-person collaboration. The difficult part is that I currently have significant family/home obligations in Atlanta, and I’m trying to realistically figure out whether phased transitions like this tend to work in practice at fast-growing tech companies or whether I’m setting myself up for long-term instability.

For those who’ve worked in distributed orgs/startups:
\- Have you seen flexibility evolve after someone proves themselves?
\- How much do direct managers vs leadership/HR influence these situations operationally?
\- Would you personally take a high-upside opportunity with some uncertainty around long-term location expectations?

I’m trying to approach this thoughtfully and professionally, not emotionally, and would really appreciate honest perspectives from people who’ve navigated similar decisions.

Looking for some honest advice from people in tech who may have navigated something similar.

I recently received a software engineering offer from a company I’m genuinely excited about. The compensation and growth opportunity are incredible, and the hiring manager/team conversations went really well. The team itself is geographically distributed across multiple offices/time zones, and the hiring manager described the work as operating very collaboratively over Slack/Zoom/travel.

The challenge is around relocation. Leadership/recruiting strongly prefer DC residency long term, even though there’s also an office in my current city (Atlanta). My hiring manager seemed operationally open to phased onboarding/travel flexibility, but the written offer still formally requires relocation within a few months.

I’m not trying to avoid collaboration or ask for permanent “never come onsite” remote work. I’m fully open to travel, onboarding onsite, and regular in-person collaboration. The difficult part is that I currently have significant family/home obligations in Atlanta, and I’m trying to realistically figure out whether phased transitions like this tend to work in practice at fast-growing tech companies or whether I’m setting myself up for long-term instability.

For those who’ve worked in distributed orgs/startups:
\- Have you seen flexibility evolve after someone proves themselves?
\- How much do direct managers vs leadership/HR influence these situations operationally?
\- Would you personally take a high-upside opportunity with some uncertainty around long-term location expectations?

I’m trying to approach this thoughtfully and professionally, not emotionally, and would really appreciate honest perspectives from people who’ve navigated similar decisions.

Looking for some honest advice from people in tech who may have navigated something similar.
I recently received a software engineering offer from a company I’m genuinely excited about. The compensation and growth opportunity are incredible, and the hiring manager/team conversations went really well. The team itself is geographically distributed across multiple offices/time zones, and the hiring manager described the work as operating very collaboratively over Slack/Zoom/travel.
The challenge is around relocation. Leadership/recruiting strongly prefer DC residency long term, even though there’s also an office in my current city (Atlanta). My hiring manager seemed operationally open to phased onboarding/travel flexibility, but the written offer still formally requires relocation within a few months.
I’m not trying to avoid collaboration or ask for permanent “never come onsite” remote work. I’m fully open to travel, onboarding onsite, and regular in-person collaboration. The difficult part is that I currently have significant family/home obligations in Atlanta, and I’m trying to realistically figure out whether phased transitions like this tend to work in practice at fast-growing tech companies or whether I’m setting myself up for long-term instability.
For those who’ve worked in distributed orgs/startups:
• Have you seen flexibility evolve after someone proves themselves?
• How much do direct managers vs leadership/HR influence these situations operationally?
• Would you personally take a high-upside opportunity with some uncertainty around long-term location expectations?
I’m trying to approach this thoughtfully and professionally, not emotionally, and would really appreciate honest perspectives from people who’ve navigated similar decisions.

Hi Everyone!
I recently received a software engineering offer from Anduril and was curious if anyone here has experience with relocation flexibility or office arrangements after joining.

I understand some teams prefer people onsite initially for onboarding/integration, but I’ve also heard teams can be fairly distributed across offices.

Has anyone successfully:
- started with one office expectation and later transitioned to another office,
- done extended onboarding/travel before relocating,
- worked in a hybrid arrangement between offices,
- or seen flexibility evolve after getting ramped up on the team?

Not trying to avoid collaboration or onboarding — just trying to understand what has realistically been possible for others over time.
Appreciate any insight!!

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some honest advice from people who may have been in a similar situation. I might be getting an offer from Anduril, and this would be my first time relocating for a job. I’m really excited about the opportunity and the work the team is doing, especially because it feels like the kind of engineering environment I’ve wanted to grow into.

At the same time, life has been pretty difficult lately. I’ve kind of become a caretaker for my mom. She doesn’t really have other family or close support around her, so the idea of relocating feels really heavy. There is an Anduril office where I currently live, but the recruiter mentioned that the specific team I’d be joining doesn’t operate out of that location.

The recruiter set up a call for me with the hiring manager after telling me I was moving toward the offer stage, and now I’m honestly feeling really torn. I’m scared I may have to turn down an opportunity I genuinely want because of family responsibilities and relocation concerns.

I’ve seen a few posts mentioning that Anduril can sometimes be flexible depending on the role/team, so I wanted to ask if anyone here has experience navigating something similar. Has anyone been able to work from a different office than their team, delay relocation, or ease into the move over time? I’m just trying to understand what’s realistic before I make a huge decision.

Thanks for reading. This has been weighing on me a lot.