How to not give a f***?
Problem: I found out my ex has been badmouthing me to her friends and making exaggerated claims.
Context:
She broke up with me because our goals and views regarding our relationship didn't align anymore. I wanted stability whereas she wanted spontaneity. I tried my best to be the "clingy" girlfriend that she wanted but I had a hard time as it was just not in my nature. I was also struggling with working two jobs and taking care of my parents. I admit that there are times where I was too tired to communicate or be affectionate but I definitely wasn't neglectful or emotionallly constipated like what she has been saying.
I think I am at the point where I don't want to get back together with her but I still feel hurt when she badmouths me because I cared deeply for her and I've never said anything negative towards her publicly. Even when I am just with my friends, I try to explain her perspective so that they won't hate her too much. We were officially together for 2 years and its been months since we broke up. This is also my first WLW relationship but not my first relationship overall because I'm bi. Why do I still care what she thinks about me? How do I make it stop? Send help.