When someone with BPD splits on their significant other and FP, is it common for them to minimize the relationship and perhaps fantasize or make a relation in the past their FP (that they do not and have not had any contact with this person for five years) just out of nowhere? Essentially telling...
.. people that they never loved their current SO/FP, that really they were just using them to feel better and has actually only ever loved this other person in the past (they were a hook up that lasted a few weeks). I wholeheartedly understand the pain people with BPD experience so this is in no way a post to demonize, I just want to understand if this is something you have experienced when splitting?
u/bogusberry — 2 days ago