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About me
I have a habit of asking, "But why?" Not intentionally, I just can't help wanting to understand people, ideas, and life beyond the obvious. I'm the kind of person who remembers a random sentence you said two years ago, notices tiny shifts in your mood, and has an intuition with a slightly unsettling success rate. Ironically, explaining my own feelings is where the software occasionally crashes.
Growing up meant changing cities every few years, so "home" slowly stopped being a place and became a feeling. That's probably what I'm looking for, not a grand Bollywood romance, just someone who makes an ordinary Tuesday feel peaceful.
I'm ambitious, but not in a hustle culture way. I don't need to win a race against strangers on LinkedIn. I just want to keep growing whether that's in my career, finances, health, or courage.
Outside work, I'm usually planning my next trip, chasing good weather, reading about something completely unrelated to software, or accidentally turning a casual conversation into an existential one.
A few honest disclaimers:
- I trust slowly.
- I overthink more often than I'd like.
- I bottle things up sometimes.
- I'm much funnier once I'm comfortable.
- I can organise a trip, a project, or a crisis with alarming efficiency... but choosing what to eat is somehow a 45-minute committee meeting.
What I'm looking for
Someone emotionally available, dependable, curious, and kind. Someone who can have difficult conversations without treating them like a natural disaster, celebrates each other's ambitions instead of competing with them, and wants a marriage that feels like a partnership before anything else.
Financially, stability and responsibility matter far more to me than flashy income. I also value a marriage where the couple has enough autonomy to make decisions together, build their own routines, and create a home that reflects both of them. To me, having that space isn't about distancing ourselves from family, it's about giving the relationship room to grow while continuing to love, respect, and support both families.
Things that don't work for me: dishonesty, manipulation, emotional unavailability, rigid gender roles, and the belief that personal growth is optional.
Life has already supplied enough chaos. I'd like marriage to feel like peace.
The practical bits
- Age: 29 (almost 30)
- Height: 5'7" (170 cm)
- Weight: 55 kg
- Community: Hindu Brahmin
- Originally from: North India
- Profession: Software Developer (B.Tech)
- Vegetarian
Looking for
- 28–34
- Taller than me
- Emotionally mature
- Financially responsible
- Looking for a teammate, not just a wedding.
I'm looking to get married, so I'd love to connect with people who are here with the same intention. No pressure to rush, just aligned intentions from the start.
TLDR: Equal parts curiosity, spreadsheets, sarcasm, and existential thoughts. Just looking for someone who feels like home.