Feeling safety again
Hi
Almost a week ago, my (F26) little sister (F15) got into an argument where it escalated and I had to call emergency services. The situation has left me quite shaken and I stepped back entirely (before this I was going to her house almost every day to support both her and mum). Although I know I’ve done the right things to protect myself during the altercation, it’s the aftermath that’s springing self doubt.
Like
“Was it even that bad?”
“How about what would happen when she’s back to school?”
“Technically she didn’t HURT me so surely I can go back right?”
“Have I just pulled back entirely to protect myself? Or to avoid the situation?
But if I have to listen to myself honestly, I’m still lacking a sense of safety which is holding me back from seeing her and her mum again.
I just want to know - with anyone who has had their LO get very violent while having a weapon, did you ever rebuild your sense of safety and trust? When you made contact again, how did you reach out? Was that break actually helpful for the relationship?
There’s a lot of what’s if and guilt - especially since she’s a minor and there’s more family dynamic stuff at play.
So my leaving question is - how did you start feeling safe around you LO after a shaky experience?