u/booya-happiness

i’ve been following SVT for a while and I really feel like some members lean towards fitting into the male gaze’s ideal vs the female gaze’s ideal a lot

🚨disclaimer: these categories are definitely very reductive/stereotypical and not a full encapsulation of them

Male Gaze

The three members that come to my mind immediately are Woozi, Vernon & Minghao

Woozi - because he is extremely chill and also a big otaku nerd. his calm demeanour and slight stand-offishness make him a bit tsundere which i think is what a lot of guys like (the playing-hard-to-get vibe)

Vernon - he’s someone who is so uniquely himself and has swagger that i think his confidence appeals to guys. the music he makes and his chill emo rapper boy image also really adds to his charisma that a guy would be a fan of

Minghao - let’s be real, he says words of wisdom and is really sincere when he gives advice. i feel like he’s the ultimate big bro or wingman (also he bboys which i feel like caters to guys lol)

Female Gaze

To me, it’s Mingyu, Dokyeom and Jeonghan

Mingyu - besides being tall, he’s also very unafraid of being openly cute or embarrassed it contrasts so hard with his appearance. girls really dig that Mingyu giggle & how he isn’t offended when his friends joke with him because he’s self assured enough

DK - i’m just gonna be honest and say it’s because he’s funny as hell and isn’t afraid to look a little silly. but ultimately it’s also because he’s started in a musical and i just feel musical theatre is something women would appreciate more than men

Jeonghan - he is very good at talking and being persuasive, plus he’s very observant yet nonchalantly cool when he takes care of the people around him

been having discussions™︎ about the future with my partner:

it seems like there is no feasible way to have it all (kids, career & maintain one’s sanity) without employing a helper

I’m only in my early 30s but growing up with a helper, I developed a bit of guilt about the fact that she was raising me instead of her own son the same age as me who she only ever saw for 2 weeks a year

so in my head, I decided to not partake in the system and now my partner is of the belief that a helper is necessary if we want to have it all.

I’m a pretty ambitious person career-wise and I enjoy my job, and so is my partner. Children are also a very likely addition to our relationship in the next 10 years.

this seems to be a small disagreement which could turn into a major issue in the future so I was just wondering what other people have thought about this