u/bowser67

Right now I mostly use ao3 to find m/f romances where the female lead is a trans woman. Are there any other sites with this type of fiction available for free?

Obviously men on dating apps don't care about anything other than sex, my own internal thoughts and personhood are irrelevant to them. Yet even beyond that I'm into computers and history and lots of nerdy stuff, things that for some reason are stereotyped as transbian interests within the trans community, while straight trans women are stereotyped as only caring about makeup and fashion and such which are things that interest me little. I also feel like there's an implicit assumption that trans lesbians are autistic and straight trans women are neurotypical, I have no idea where that came from because it's total bullshit! It frustrates me to no end that my sexuality supposedly makes me a vapid or unintelligent person. I noticed that before I transitioned I would get put into this box of idiot gay guy, as soon as someone suspected I like boys they would cease caring about what I had to say. Homophobes certainly think of gay men as sex-obsessed numbskulls, and that always had a pernicious effect on me. Now even in trans spaces it is the same! Why!?

Being straight doesn't mean I care about nothing other than dating men and attracting them. I am motivated by much more than that, my sexuality is hardly a factor in my interests and hobbies (my autism certainly is though). Just because I like guys doesn't mean I'm a ditz! I'm a pretentious pseudo intellectual and no one can take that away from me!!!

Idk, can anyone else relate?