I'm pre-transition but before I realized I was a girl I thought I was attracted to girls. But now I just can't see myself as a girl dating another girl and suddenly guys are really hot, but it feels weird to call myself straight since all the stories of straight trans girls are of girls who were gay guys pre transition. Has anyone else had an experience like mine?
I asked a similar question previously. But chasers took it as an opportunity to DM me. Looking for input from fellow trans women about where they met their partners. Apps? Bars? Parties? On a massive cruise ship, immediately prior to its historic collision with an iceberg? Help a girl out. I'm struggling here.
I guess for context it might help to know that I am attracted almost exclusively to men.
*Obligatory "Chasers, get lost!"
Mine is honestly getting dolled up
I LOVE doing my makeup, doing my hair, putting together cute outfits, all of it. There’s something so satisfying about getting ready and then just going out into the world feeling pretty
And I love the social side of womanhood too
Walking somewhere, paying absolutely no attention to the men staring at me, and then immediately turning around to tell some girl I love her dress or her hair. I love complimenting women. I love those random little interactions with other girls where you instantly hype each other up like you’ve known each other forever
I love being a girl’s girl. I love the sisterhood of it all.
Like yes, transition was obviously about becoming myself and being comfortable in my own skin and all the serious stuff… but also? I did it for the sisterhood and the fashion lol
What’s yours? It can be something deep or something completely superficial. I wanna hear the tiny things that make you go, “yeah, I love being a woman.”
It’s crazy that I never spoke or mentioned this but do any of the dolls here ever notice how drag queens get treated better than us. All they have to do is tuck for a show yet I have to do that until I can bottom surgery and it can be painful at times while I’m out and about. Maybe I’m just being a jealous bitch but it’s just something I have felt when navigating through this hell hole. Am I crazy or is this something someone here might also feel. I need a drink…
I’m sitting, eating my food and thinking about what a person I trust told me. He said he told his friend that I’m trans.
Well, thing is I’m never ever gonna get across persons he talks to but I feel uncomfortable. He told me he asked her where he could go on a date with me and things but what does it have to do with me being trans? How this is an important point? This is personal. Especially since I’m working with people, I have students, their parents. I have whole bunch of people in my life that don’t know about me being trans.
World is small, especially my country. You might be one handshake away from another person. Do I want my photos (I hope he didn’t share photos) and my name and gender identity being public?
I called him out and he said it was not good and apologized but I guess it’s common sense not to share stealth trans girls identity with just anyone?
I trust him and love him but I feel uncomfortable.
Am I dramatique?
So, I'm (21F) on Hinge, and it's going about as horrendous as it's gone for many of you. Have any of you ever met people in person? If so, how did it go for you and how did you go about it?
Some context so y'all know what I'm working with. I'm pre-op, but in terms of passing I'm in that awkward in-between. Other trans women can easily clock me by voice, but I'm able to be stealth at work (fast food restaurant, most co-workers are foreign and have some trouble with english) and I've had experiences with men that definitely didn't clock me and never ended up finding out. I'll definitely have to disclose because I can't assume people will know.
I guess I'm just looking for advice for meeting men to date in person. Where do y'all go? Do you approach or let men approach you? Just, everything and anything. My only vague idea of where to start is to hit the gay bars, but a lot of the men there aren't into women and the one time I did get approached it was by someone who was in his late 40s.
Help! XD