Just feel like, since this is now evidently a space for straight trans girls, and all of the others are guests with an asterisk, I will kinda miss not having to make the distinction between experiences of bi and straight dolls.

Just thinking about creating a sub à la GirlDinnerDiaries for all of the girls and to let the spirit in which this sub was created live on! So these two subs can coexist!

Deadass though, I'm incompetent in mod work and I'd need some help. :)

Like, I cut all of them off, became a closeted hermit for a while when kicking off transition. Now I have transitioned, stealth, and I just spent so much time that I lost every connection, and the ability to make them. Moved out to a new city about a year ago, but despite efforts, still haven't been close to anyone again.

And what's the point in trying to find a relationship, if I can't even manage platonic relationships?

Also not sure of my jawline is clocky? Should I treat that as well?

Context: Currently already planning an orbitals with type 3 forehead contouring and a rhinoplasty sometime next year!

I'm literally gutted with I what I was left with by mother nature after 4 years of HRT. And there is absolutely nothing that changed it.

I was on Estrogen pills for just under a year. My chest started budding at around 2 months, and growth completely halted at 6-7 months. My levels were abysmal, my T was barely suppressed. My weight was extremely low and I barely gained anything.

I switched to injections after that year and had SRS a year in. I also had a couple of 1-2 months periods I was on gel, due to no injection supply. I have been now been on injections for over 3 years.

My levels are night and day versus what they were before: always well over 300 pg/ml.

Testosterone is nuked.

I added progesterone 2 years ago, orally, then rectally.

My weight went from 65kg to 75kg.

I don't have male gonads.

My female family members are all extremely busty.

My expectations were vanishingly low regardless: I was completely fine with being small.

But I'm not small, no, I am 100% flat. I haven't felt growing pains in 3 years.

It makes no sense whatsoever. So, how much sense does your breast growth make?

I have seen a lot of male comments in these comments sections that keep hammering on how we should actually disclose early on, or we're liars. However, we know they don't care one single bit about these other men.

It's for themselves that they say this. It makes it easier for them to scout and scope for trans women they can take advantage from. They inadvertently narrow down your dating pool, ensuring that we are under the impression that only chasers like them will ever give us a chance.

Just to be clear: Do whatever you are most comfortable with. Play by your rules. You don't owe men early disclosure at all. If you can, go on a date and don't tell. Men that specifically look for trans women are not the only people in your dating pool!

It's been two years and some functional and aesthetic issues persist. Even after a revision one year ago. I felt kind of lied to ig.

Just trying to gauge if this is a common experience at all and how you are navigating/navigated it?

(And for the terfs frothing at the mouth to use these types of posts to lie and mislead: No, I do not regret SRS, but the timeframe; getting rid of what was there before is the best choice I ever made; cope and seethe)

It's been mine for a while and I'm trying to turn it around with therapy. I'm literally flat if I don't wear a bra of some sort. But I'm also not willing to do a BA. Just trying to find some other small boobed girls that are in my lane :)

Apparently, we need to bend over backwards to coddle the unsure. Those of us actually living this life, dealing with the daily grind of microaggressions, gatekeeping, surgery complications and societal rejection, get told to "stay positive" for their sake.

And no, I'm not talking about those who live in countries where being trans can get you executed. What I refer to, is reading about obviously white middle class posters, scared their friend may not be their friend anymore.

Seriously, so ironic that the people who need the most support are often the ones expected to provide it.

Edit: For clarification, my issue is primarily the mods (with power) of these Subreddits upholding these ideas. I have no issue at all with the group themselves. However, when your reactions have targeted posts for this exact reason, you're part of the problem.

Edit 2: Would be nice if people actually engaged with the content of the post. Instead of going ad hominem.

I vented about my disappointing experience with surgery and was vehemently attacked in the comments. Because they couldn't find anything to put me down with, they chose to focus on the age of my account. Even after proving quite extensively my concerns were real, I was attacked further by dismissive comments.

I just don't think they want to see any dissent there. No one. Not the participants. Not the moderators. After reporting to the moderators, they decided to ban me instead of the people accusing me of being a psyop.

These are the people that will forever hurt our credibility with the wider public. They are only out to create an echo chamber, that will delude trans people to think transitioning can only ever be sunshine and rainbows.

Edit: FYI, misconstruing my vent post as calling for a general policy change will get you blocked

Edit 2: Someone pointed me towards the subreddit drama a couple of months ago and I realise getting banned from that ecosystem may be a blessing. Hope you have a wonderful day!

They look so much better than whatever mine is. Had a revision and it still looks horrifying. Wish I had waited for another decade to save up...

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

Edit: I have noticed for the comments you're not allowed to talk badly about transition experiences if it makes people feel insecure.

Edit 2 (The one I had hoped I would not have to make)

Some of you have shown your true faces. I sometimes mistakenly think that this is a community that would know sympathy more than anyone. That is obviously not the case.

I made a mistake. And I wanted to not feel alone. Instead, I got a mass of comments accusing me of lying. Because it didn't fit the idea they had of surgery. This was a post to find some community and understanding in the sadness I felt.

But unfortunately I realise that people are only on here to chase their own goals. Just so they can scratch one surgeon off of their list. One they weren't actually going to go to anyway. Security for others be damned. I hope when someone posts a similar sorry next time, that that person will be met with some understanding, even if it meant protecting themselves.

And if you think I would write this paragraph if I were a bad faith actor, I hope you will one day lose your cynicism. But I guess the security of hiding behind a blue downvote-button is comfortable. A comfort that you clearly don't bestow on me.

I hope you get to brag about your surgery results. That it will be everything you hoped for. That it will never make you feel disfigured.

Edit 3

Understood, I'll leave, seems like the way this place works isn't for me. Hope some of you got what you wanted. (Surgeon is in the comments, go find it)

I was quite taken aback by some comments I have been reading this morning. Multiple people questioning my morality because I don't advertise I'm trans in dating interactions immediately.

Edit: Oh look, they have already found the post and are downvoting it :)