Wanting to End My Nights Together
Me (25F) and my boyfriend (24M) are long distance and used to call every night and go to sleep together. Sometimes it would be on the phone, sometimes we would hang up and go to sleep. It was our routine. We also usually choose one day every week where that isn’t an expectation so we can plan our own social activities for the night. Anyway.
Recently he has been calling me, but after he hangs up he gets on discord with his friends and hangs out for about 2-3 hours. It’s now a consistent part of his nights.
I try to be understanding, and I haven’t said anything about it yet, but for some reason I feel hurt when he chooses that every time. It also makes me feel very lonely and I have a hard time sleeping. I want him to have his friends and have fun nights, but sometimes I want us to end our night together. That just doesn’t happen anymore.
I want to talk to him about it, but it feels so silly. I feel like I need to just accept that him giving me a nightly phone call is what I should be grateful for. I don’t want to sound ungrateful. Especially when to be honest, I have a bad habit of constantly asking him to do certain things differently, or bring up when I felt hurt by something I did. I don’t want to nag or nitpick. I try to tell him all the time when I see good things he does and I try to show him how much I appreciate what he does for me and the sacrifices he has made for me through this LDR.
But it has been difficult for me to transition from the routine we used to have to this new one.