u/br3adcrum

im asking since i just had surgery (probably obvious based on the title) and im starting to get really mad at myself for talking about myself so much to everyone like all my friends all i can talk about is my recovery process and a lot of them are helping me luckily but i still feel really bad should i just tell them to stop talking about it because i feel this way or is it just a problem in my head

also making this post asking anyone else if theyve had similar experiences but i’m not asking it to say everyone is like me here and i dont expect that to be the case

i just want a normal relationship that isnt just hookups or little interactions or fwb i hate how being gay and “gay culture” is so oversexualized and advertised as a hookup thing like how gay bars and apps and shit are so popular but 99% of people who go there and are on those apps do not want to meet people to have actual relationships and i get straight people also have struggles with people who only want hookups but straight couples are generally a lot more displayed as traditional relationships especially with most places not accepting gay marriage and with a ton of religious people judging gayness as being a gross perverted thing

though i have dated more people who genuinely want relationships than fwb or hookups (also due to my age i won’t ignore as a factor), i still am so tired of seeing being gay as such a sexual thing can anybody relate